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How I Lost Weight Over 11 Days

During my first time losing weight, a dietician and an exercise physiologist told me that my metabolism is “too slow” and that I must go out and run all the time. This kind of advice, not only has the potential to be dangerous, it also does nothing to change how we view our bodies as they are.

If you want your fitness goal to keep progressing, rather than stagnating, the two most important things you are going to need to do are start at the beginning and commit to it. If you don’t do either one of those two things, there won’t be anything to keep you running. The first thing a fitness trainer told me was, “Start at 100% and do something every day until you can’t go another single day without doing a set.” It was this simple statement that changed the way we thought about exercise.

The second piece of advice was, “Don’t quit.” One of my friends, who had been running since she was five, went from going three months without exercising, back to working out five days a week.

I thought these two principles would work to motivate me to keep working toward my goal. Instead, that set up made me feel even more guilty because I thought of it as “working too hard.” When I did finally give up, I regretted it a lot. I was too afraid to keep going.

I began to think, “Why not quit if I can’t do it without risking harm to myself?” When I finally gave up on my health and fitness goals after a year and a half, I really was tired of going to the gym. But even more than that was the feeling I felt on the inside — how much it had sucked.

It was my first real workout at age 19. I could barely manage 10 minutes of training, and even that felt overwhelming. The feeling of dread, disappointment, and disappointment was so extreme that it felt like my goal had failed.

Even though I would be lying if my goal hadn’t caused me that kind of emotional distress, I still was committed to it.

Instead of letting my goals fail to make me feel bad when they didn’t go as planned, I decided to not let them fail so I could feel good about what I did.

Once I decided my fitness goals weren’t worth the risk of losing my self-esteem because the weight loss was not going right in the sense that I had hoped, I made a commitment to focus purely on them. I didn’t do anything else because, when I could, I chose to be focused on weight loss.

After a year and a half, I realized I had lost a lot of weight at the very moment I needed to stop. I would have lost more weight if I hadn’t given up. I was not going to lose weight without first stopping myself from gaining it.

I was really confused that I didn’t just take the simple first step in my commitment to weight loss, “I’m going to lose weight.” I was like, “It’s not worth losing my self-esteem if I can’t achieve my goal!”

This is a common mistake I see people make in weight loss. They try to lose weight, but they feel guilty about it, and then they start to gain it again.

There is a way to stop the negative feelings I was experiencing by just making a clear and straightforward choice. In my case, I decided to focus purely on the weight loss. If that doesn’t work, then there would be no point. It was then that I had the feeling of relief I had been wanting for years; and I felt great about myself, too!

This is not to say that I always focus purely on weight loss. If I am going out and doing something to improve my health and fitness, I am not going to get bogged down in the guilt because what I am doing is not about weight loss.

But what this article helps is that when a weight-loss goal is not worth the risk of losing personal responsibility, it is usually a good idea to stop thinking about it or doing it.

For some people, trying to lose weight is like trying to solve a puzzle with only one piece of information. If you start to put all your weight loss hope into one piece, you will never figure it out. You can’t know what the final answer turns out to be because you haven’t made that piece the focus of your commitment. This is very common when people try a weight loss plan first and fail. You can always give a little more time to the weight loss plan and give up again if you run out of time. You can make another commitment to it next time. You can change plans. Or you can stop trying to reach that goal in the first place. Because it is always the ultimate goal that matters if you are going to quit. Not the weight you have finally lost.