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How I Used Positive Psychology To Transform My Life

Here now, is a collection of my best posts from the last 3 years on social psychology. If your life is changing on some level, then read this! And if you’re wondering whether it’s necessary to know how this stuff works, then read on.

In the last 3 years, I’ve learned from some of the best psychological minds around that there’s nothing magic about being smart or being well-informed or being a well-mannered person. It’s just good habits that form a well-rounded human being. I’m really glad I chose the subject of psychology because it’s a subject that touches so many facets of my life, it really feels like my life is on a path to becoming a fuller person. You may think that being on a path to a fuller person means that I’ve wasted my time, but this isn’t true. All my best habits are still there, which is the only guarantee that I can make sure that they’re being utilized to their fullest possible potential.

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In the last 3 years, I’ve written more posts about social psychology than I have on science. And I’ve also had more posts published than science, which is about a quarter of a million posts on Psychology Today alone. Why? Because I wanted people to understand better that it’s not just about understanding. I have to also apply that understanding to actual things. That’s a lot of homework. I have to know the best ways to use the tools in my toolbox to get the job done!

The Problem of Misunderstanding Psychology

I’ve had a lot of trouble understanding the difference between social psychology and behavior change . When someone asks me what social psychology is about, I think to myself; “I’m not really sure either.” I want to know about the topic, so I can better understand it. However, when people ask me what behavioral change is all about I’m very confused because I don’t know what they are talking about, and I often don’t use these terms together.

For example, one person recently asked me “What is Behavioral Change?”, and I thought to myself “Uh Oh! I know, this is hard!”

I couldn’t figure it out.

I’d like to be a student of behavioral change, but am not able to understand what is happening in my own personality. So, I ask people; “Do you understand the difference between psychology and behavioral change?” What they all answer is “Of course, I do! I’m a PhD! I understand it all!” So, of course, I don’t have a problem with people with PhDs, because it means that we all understand a few words of the topic. I don’t get that at all, which is why I feel the need to educate people on the difference. In the end, I guess all the confusion is just a waste of time.

So, is this social psychology, and behavioral change a bad thing? I don’t think so. Let me explain with reference to a few social psychological studies. So, back in the day we had people called “Mormon Fundamentalists”. Basically, these people are trying to be righteous and go to heaven, even though they probably have a lot of sexual problems and have an awful attitude towards women. So they follow the teachings of their church, and they try to change their personality and their behavior by doing certain things like eating less meat and practicing hard drugs. Of course, this isn’t how all people change, but as social psychologists we tend to think that the only thing different about “Mormon Fundamentalists” and we “normal people” is the “doctrinal teachings”. But, what would I expect the “Mormons” to act or think? Here is a list of “Mormon Fundamentalist” responses to the following question: “Do you believe that God Almighty has a personal army of angels who will come to your aid if you fall into sin?”

The answers all look like a pretty similar list of beliefs:

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