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How The Secrets Of Successful People Are Easy To Share

If you believe your self-talk can be improved by sharing it, it’s not difficult, and it turns around the way you feel about yourself.

We all know we want to do this for ourselves, but sometimes we may be afraid to try. There exists a whole world of people out there who don’t know this, but they are the ones it takes to change your life. We often talk about how hard it is to talk to other people, but I have found that many of you are more likely to communicate with your family and friends. Why? Because our families and friends are the most successful and most influential people in your life. It’s a shame that they don’t know how they can change you, yet you have spent your life learning to do it. When you find this out, you are more likely to share this with them. And they will change your life.

The secrets to success are not hard to share, and the rewards (not the rewards themselves) are easy to share. This is not just about being successful, it’s also about doing well. We all know what we can do to contribute to the world, but sometimes we don’t know what to do. The easiest thing you can do with people is ask them questions about what they need.

What do you need?

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It’s a simple question, but it’s one that can change you, because it tells people you care about them. And then the next year, they will start to care about you. If you think about it, our world is full of people who are looking for their needs to be met, but they don’t know how to get there, and so they are stuck. Instead of talking about your needs, tell them what you need.

“What do you need?”  

It’s a question you can change someone’s life, and they will begin to care about you more, and in turn, more people will care about them.

What are these needs you ask about?

I think we have a lot in common in the things we need: security, approval, connection, and success. Our need to be appreciated, to be seen, and to be heard. Some of the most common things people ask me are things like:

What is it I need that people don’t seem to be noticing?

What’s important to me? People often don’t know what to do with that info. For example, if you’re asking me what’s important, you really must know what my needs are, because I don’t know them yet. I’ve had this discussion too many times with those that have been in my life all of my life:  

She had this answer for years, then she started doing the research.

He had this answer for years, then he started doing the research.

I had this answer for years, then he started doing the research.

It’s a tough question to get right, but if you can share it with her, she will be able to answer it as well.

“What’s important to YOU?”

The next question is different. Here we are more open with someone. We are more willing to be open to help them find their answers. If you want to help someone open up their world, take a moment to tell them what you need, but don’t feel guilty for asking the first question as well. “What’s important to you?”

It makes the person more likely to look for the answers.