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How To Achieve Self-esteem And Self-acceptance In A World That Sees Women So Differently

I’m just sharing some spiritual wisdom for women on this topic. I’m sure there are better videos out there on the topic, but this one gives a great grounding point to those feeling alone because of their female biology.

What we need to think about is how we’re dealing with and coping with our own pain. Many women experience some level of pain (physical or emotional) in life, but we tend to think that this pain is caused by something we’re doing to ourselves: dieting, taking anti-depressants or other medication, not having enough sex, or whatever. But we know that our own pain doesn’t have anything to do with things being right or wrong, and can sometimes even come from places we never expect. We need to accept and accept how we were created and take the time to take care of ourselves, to figure out what we need to heal here and who we can connect with when something goes wrong.

I can only speak to my own situation. Here are some things to think about as I read through your responses:

Are you working through your feelings in your life?

Are you reaching out to others when something goes wrong?

Are you having feelings on a weekly basis that you can’t shake that are so difficult?

When something goes really wrong, you can’t stay in a “I have so much pain, I feel sorry for myself” mode. It’s important to be okay with how we feel at moments that we may not immediately think of as bad, but we know are painful. When emotions come and go, we are human and sometimes things hurt.

I’m a male in a long term relationship. I’m not getting any more sex, but my wife has a long term relationship and is having the sex she needs. I’m trying to be a good boyfriend and husband, but our relationship is not getting any worse. Is there anyone else that I should be talking to?

There are people out there that are more than willing to hear from couples that are having difficulty, but it’s important for both partners to want help and to know where they’re coming from. The person that you are with, and the person you want to be with, can get along and are on the same page, you just need to be open to hearing a different perspective.

What I would recommend is to get a therapist that knows what you’re going through, have a plan for your healing, and is available when you need her. You know your pain and your healing as well as anyone else; you shouldn’t need someone to talk to about your pain, but you should feel comfortable and confident enough to speak openly and honestly about what your being through.

Have you tried meditation? Or do you take a day or two a week to just focus on your breath? How do you deal with the pain and the discomfort of everyday life? What does mindfulness do for you? Are you finding any relief at all? What I’m starting is a blog about my recovery and healing process in my relationship. http://mikesthefearofgod.blogspot.com/

Are we being compassionate and helping our friends and relationships when we can and when we cannot?

There are women out there that are in great pain, but they do so in private. I’m speaking from my own place here, but I see so many women coming to the blog wanting help and understanding so they might be able to make some changes and move on with their lives. There are a lot of amazing women out there that will give you that and need you to know that you should support these women and be open to listening when you can and going on your own path to healing without judgment, no matter how we feel.

This is such a common question. It’s hard to talk about, even now. I don’t want to say “please get help,” because when you can, it’s so much more fulfilling to just know that you did something, it’s like going to prison with the hope of getting out and seeing how well you do.