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How To Avoid Wishing For Things You Don’t Have

We can feel guilty about this stuff, but we’re really not meant to feel ashamed. Rather, these feelings are part of the human condition. They occur when a person finds they cannot live up to their own self-fulfilling potential or the expectations of others.

I’m not a believer in karma. I’m a believer in an inherent reality that everyone experiences that makes them who they are. In other words, everyone has something we’re not getting right, and that makes us the ultimate failures. And the truth is, most of what’s holding us back is the stuff that we really should be embracing — and what we SHOULD be doing every day. I have some great stories about the inner and the outer life that I hope to share when I get home in August (this is before I start “30 Days Of Intent!”). If you’re interested in hearing about those stories, please keep your eye on my blog! I want to focus on the inner part of the cycle: on how one must discover who one is by taking personal responsibility for who they are, and how that helps them live their lives.

Wishing For Things You Don’t Have

As I started writing this article, I realized I had some big wishes. I wish I could go to Europe someday. I wish I’d gotten to play the piano. I wish I would have been born a boy. I wish I could have traveled through time, but in fact I didn’t. I wish I was a girl. Oh yeah, and one more thing: I wish I could have just had a friend who was less prejudiced.

This is why I find it interesting that it is more acceptable to hold a discriminatory view of gay people, even by the most reasonable and enlightened individuals; so much more acceptable. People can be so quick to tell LGBT people that they are wrong, that they are wrong to dream of love, that they are wrong to want to get married, that they are wrong to have any sexual thoughts or desires, that they are wrong to even consider or pursue what it would mean to be a homosexual. And not just that, because I hear the same things about black people, Latinos, immigrants, Native Americans and women. But I have to be honest: I get the gay people. I don’t hate them. I see their beauty. The gay person is as worthy of attention and consideration as the next person, so long as their needs and wants are justly acknowledged.

This is one reason why my friend, and my wife, are so adamant to make certain LGBT people know that they live in this world, just like everyone else. If you don’t have anything to show for your life, if you don’t have many friends or any significant romantic relationships, perhaps you have something more important than your hopes and dreams. You may have had a friend or family member of a certain nature who died at the young age of 23, and what was they doing when you grew up? They had plenty to live for. A life well lived doesn’t have to feel like a waste. Maybe you should put that aside for a couple of years while you catch up on some important things.

What do you wish for, Mr. or Ms. Gay? Share your dreams and your hopes in the comments below.