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How To Become An Expert At A Skill, Using A Tool Of Focus

You cannot improve skills by learning them without focus. If you’re not developing the focus to get things accomplished, then you’re not going to succeed. Focus means that you put all of your energies toward this or that process, focusing on the process as though it were the source of all good.

I’m sure by now you’ve seen some of my blog posts and watched the various YouTube videos on the various different forms of meditation that you can practice. In my personal experience, I see it as the ultimate in “self-training” technique. If you’re not having success at achieving meditation, you’re not using enough of the tool that meditation is. The tools that help you with meditation fall into this list: meditation, visualization, mantras, and so on. If your attention is too fixed on the breath or on another mental concept, you won’t be able to meditate because you can’t focus on your breath or on visualization without being focused on those other mental concepts.

When you’re focusing on the breath or on other mental concepts, the entire mind takes a backseat to focusing on the “task” that you’re focusing on. When you can sit and watch the breath for a while, and the body remains completely still, there’s a great sense of calmness and stillness.

I have a habit of sitting and watching the breath for a few minutes until all my mental concepts are atrophied. I then bring them to the forefront of my awareness. Once an idea or notion becomes so engrained that it is more about the mental state of being relaxed than being focused, I bring it back down. It does this about 5 or 6 times before I can sit there without thinking about it. I do this with a lot of mental topics.

As I get more familiar with the use of the tools in my guide, I can increase the amount of practice I put into the practice of meditation. My goal is to get to a state where I’m focused on the breath without thinking about anything else at all and be able to sit for an extended period for 15 minutes or longer. A lot of people are able to stay focused long enough to meditate successfully for 15 minutes, because a lot of the time they’re sitting still.

If I get there and realize that the practice is just not working for me, I can simply start over again, since I have a lot of good ideas to bring into practice.

It’s important to realize that not all of the mental concepts (or mantras, or visualization, or whatever) that I have for practice are designed to help me actually meditate. There are other mental concepts or mantras that I use for this purpose. What works for me may not be the best strategy in other people’s practices. You should just decide as a matter of fact that a particular kind of meditation won’t work for you. And then experiment with a different form. You’ll get better at it, eventually.

In The World Of You, My Mind, and Your Practice The author of one of my favorite books, “The Power of Now: A Revolutionary Approach to Spiritual Autonomy,” describes himself as “a non-conformist, and for the last decade and a half he’s been meditating more than any other human being alive.”

A non-conformist is someone who’s deeply dedicated to not conforming their life to the way some other person thinks. In the first chapter of his book The Power of Now, the author describes how he became an uncompromising devotee of a technique he calls “mindfulness.” “He has learned to live a life where he can accept the fact that he can never fully control the mind, because he cannot control his own mind. He has learned that not only does mindfulness teach that one has a mind to be controlled, but the only way to truly control it is to be present and attentive. Because of his devotion, his mind has become more like the rest of his body; he feels more like his body, and he learns to be present not only in the physical aspects of his life but also in the mental aspects.