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How To Become More Self-confident

Some feel a need to be a bit of a “thinker” so that their critical and pessimistic nature doesn’t undermine their own confidence.

For years I have been working on a mental resilience training program for my clients. At the core of our training is not how someone will overcome a mental illness or anxiety disorder. When the core of our program is how we will grow more confidence in ourselves, it becomes obvious that we cannot hope for a cure without the work it takes to conquer one’s self. We can’t think about becoming a better thinker so much as thinking about how to be a better you, by recognizing the patterns of our internal self-talk and making changes in them. The truth is I have a unique talent to be kind to myself. I’ve come to understand that you’re never alone. We all have voices that tell us, from time to time, that we are worth less than we are and that our thoughts and actions were wrong. We have to find a means of changing these voices and reframe this self-doubt to be positive, not negative. The best therapy I have found is to be kind to myself and to help people who are struggling with similar issues as myself. I’m constantly thinking about what I tell people who come to me with depression, and how I can help them to become more confident. I’m grateful to be a role model because I feel like I can help others and give life purpose, but I know I can’t have the same positive influence on everyone because some will not even recognize their own self-doubt or anxiety.

How To Be More Confident In Yourself, It’s A Thing That Happens

For people with some sort of emotional disorder or anxiety, self-identity is important. I’ve become a professional counselor because I want to help people find peace in their lives with this kind of disorder, and I want to help them see how they can become more self-confident in themselves. Here is my own self-confident example.

(I’m a strong, pretty guy with an average physical appearance. My most significant physical feature is longish hair. I’m an avid skateboarder, karate-ka, and enjoy spending time at the local skate park. I’m a good cook who loves spending time at home with my family.) The thing about my self-confidence is that when I’m in a really challenging situation, you often see the results of the hard work I’ve put forward in my life. When I need help with a problem, I always feel better when I hear how the problem is probably my fault. I’ve learned how to focus on myself when I go out alone.  I have a lot of people that I trust in my life. Many people have told me that they love me, but if they could talk to me when I’m scared, when I get really upset, or if I am just in the dark, I know that they truly care very much about my well-being, because they see how much I care about them and how strongly I care about them. I understand that the way that I respond to stressful situations is a reflection of what my inner self is thinking. This isn’t to say that my thinking is always “right.” Sometimes I get overwhelmed, my energy is too low, or my focus is so intense that I’ve lost sight of the big picture. It’s when I don’t listen to my internal self, when I focus on other people and instead of focusing on my own thoughts, that I have real panic attacks. Even when I’m in the midst of trying so hard and making so many plans, I really, genuinely love myself. I know that I have a lot of work to do. There is no excuse for me not to be able to love myself.

As I watch my self-confident self, who is very happy to be healthy and happy with his body, I can honestly tell you that my self-confident self is always trying to be self-confident. I’m very grateful for being in the position that I was in when I was diagnosed and I’m grateful for the confidence I have to know that I can do what I need to do to keep moving forward. I believe that I have to constantly be working to make sure I’m moving forward and that as I do that I feel very powerful. I see that whenever I do something, I am doing something meaningful, that there is someone watching and that when they see me do things properly, they get a real sense of me. Every action I take makes a difference and every action I take is a choice.