How To Build Better Relationships

Here’s a list of some basic ways to have meaningful conversations with people.

Here are some ways to have a great conversation at your next gathering: Make eye contact, be open and inquisitive and share with them your views on issues. Take a time out to talk together about how you got along and your current problems. Invite them over for dinner, drink or some form of a friendly social gathering. Use humor and keep the discussion interesting, even if you have nothing but disagreement.

If we’re at a gathering where people are sharing common ideals or beliefs, ask the group to share about what kind of social gatherings and how they are going to get the most out of the event.

Here are some other ways to have a great discussion, especially if the topic is social justice: 

1. Discuss the issues which affect you, discuss with them what your own views on these issues are and why you think they apply to you.

2. Talk about what you like about them, how you want them to be more social, to change their lives or at least help you understand what they like about you as well as what they think about.

3. Have a debate on social issues or the issues that affected you personally and have an open-minded, accepting view. It doesn’t have to be a political debate, or a disagreement about anything at all. It doesn’t even have to be a controversial issue.

4. Have a beer or a drink, if the weather is nice, and talk about whatever’s on your mind, your personal issues and maybe a few fun stories.

5. Have a meal together, if they want to, or if you just want to have a bit of a chat. If you have an argument, that’s cool.

6. Have a cup of tea or coffee, if you’re willing (see the last example above). Don’t let your disagreement be the main event of the evening.

7. Have a chat, whether you have a discussion in real time or it’s something that should take place after the meeting is over. Chat as long as you need to as long as the topic doesn’t get boring (as long as everyone likes each other and you’re not arguing over nothing).

8. Try and have a laugh and have a good time at a social gathering.

We live in a society where people have to compete for the most basic things in life: food, a job, a home. There’s no such thing as social freedom in this society, everyone is on the same playing field.

The truth is that we’re all the same at the end of the day. We’re all here for the same reason.

But this isn’t the case in real life because:

a) We don’t all have the same needs and are all in a different stage of our development. 

b) People’s opinions differ.

c) Our needs and opinions change. 

d) We all have different social skills, attitudes and values.

We might be very different from each other in our opinion on the issues but we can all empathise when we get together because we have all experienced something similar at some stage of our life. 

So social media is great for getting together for a discussion on a topic, but that doesn’t mean you should rely on Facebook friends and text friends to be the ones who have the relevant knowledge on every issue. There’s a difference between friends and social media experts. 

If you want to talk about an issue in depth, use a text or a video chat, have an open discussion or have a discussion where all of the participants are able to communicate with each other.