How To Create Happy Relationships

Most people associate happiness with how much money they make, the size of their home, or social status. These things are all measurable, but only in the aggregate. What if you could view each relationship as an individual? This concept is called interpersonal value. It is essential to creating lasting, satisfying friendships.

When you first move in with your partner, there can be a lot of confusion about what kind of human being they will be. Can they make you feel happy or sad? How does their happiness measure up to yours and what are your expectations? Understanding your partner as an individual may reveal ways to interact and feel more understood and connected. You won’t think about your partner as “a piece of property” or “a means to an end.” It will help you be more intentional with how you treat them, which in turn is a good sign. If your partner is unhappy, try doing things you think would make him or her happier. This doesn’t mean do anything you wouldn’t do on your own. Just try things that you think would make him or her feel happier. When you treat your partner like an individual, you will create the kind of relationship that is more consistent and easier to sustain.

For those of us who struggle with jealousy, it is difficult to communicate about it without offending one another. One way to handle it is to make one person the mediator. It takes a lot of work on your part to make sure your partner is happy. When you can’t communicate how you are feeling, use your imagination to imagine how your partner feels to better judge your own feelings. Ask yourself why your partner feels the way he or she does. Try to imagine your partner’s answer to the question. This simple exercise and visualization will help you get to the root of your jealousy and begin to solve it.

Sometimes we have to ask ourselves which actions are acceptable or unacceptable to tell in order to be happy in our relationships. In this case, you need to practice a “double-bind” exercise. Think of a situation in which you could have acted differently or in which you acted as intended and the other person did not. If two people who think the same way don’t think the same way, the relationship might be dysfunctional.

The double-bind exercise helps build relationships, but it also helps you think more clearly when you are conflicted. When your partner is happy, you can become happier too. Don’t believe me? Take a picture of your girlfriend when she is in a happy mood and then try to replicate that same environment. Your eyes are going to be wider. The world around you could appear different. It’s okay to have your emotions out. If you keep them contained, your partner will benefit because he or she won’t have to worry about upsetting you. When you tell each other that you love each other and your partner is happy, not only will you be happier, the relationship will hold well.

How to Build a Perfect Relationship

This concept goes beyond relationships. It also applies to life. It’s about building a family or home that works well for everyone regardless of their unique needs, strengths, and passions. When you do things that work for everyone, the benefits benefit everyone in the long run, particularly your family.