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How To Develop Positive Habits

Positive habits can make you feel better and increase your happiness. If you’ve got a specific goal, how do you decide what habits to build and when? Here are seven habits that appear to increase your happiness.

You probably believe that your best-laid plans for your day will always unfold to your liking, and that you have no control over the results that come out of this process. In contrast, people commonly express concern about whether their own habits or the habits of others will have unforeseen consequences or will not work out as planned. The idea that we are only as good as our last habit—even if that last habit is a truly wonderful one—may seem counterintuitive or even counterintuitively counterintuitive. Yet, this notion of “last habit” may be one of the most significant ones for cultivating self-awareness and developing our inner resources.

It’s not just about how we go about our day; it’s about how we feel when we do it. The habits for which we get the most joy (or the least) often come at the expense of the most destructive ones.

As we’ve noted elsewhere on this site, the greatest happiness a person could ever experience would be achieved in circumstances with which she or he was unprepared. In fact, even the most well-planned day is likely to contain some aspect of chaos and upheaval. 

It’s easy to be frustrated and frustrated yourself over the possibility of doing things the way you’d always do them and not getting the results that you want. But this attitude isn’t helpful, because it’s counterproductive. It means that you’ll have to change your habits, which can be a daunting and confusing endeavor. If you really want to avoid making mistakes, you should focus on the consequences of those mistakes so that you don’t repeat them. To illustrate this point, let’s take the example of a “last-minute” shower. When you take a shower, the pressure to do it quickly and perfectly is immense. You’re also faced with the challenge of having no time to do anything else before the shower starts. The result is that your shower is going to look something like the following diagram:

A person taking a shower looks like they don’t know what they want to do! A well-planned shower requires attention to detail, time, and care; it is a skill, and a skill is a skill that takes practice. 

If your last shower resulted in your feeling as if you didn’t know what you wanted to do, what then are you going to do next time? It’s likely that the next shower will be something very similar, especially since you’re going to feel as if you were unable to accomplish anything with this shower. It’s the last thing the person in the above diagram would ever want to feel. But they can expect that they will feel it every time they shower. The goal of the habit-building project is to develop the skill to shower in a way that’s both comfortable and effective.

Habits are like little engines on which we run. They get out of control if we don’t take the effort to plan them in advance. We want our little engines to operate smoothly; we don’t want to go to the hospital if we have to have emergency surgery on them without permission! You can put the same skill into practice in any area of your life.

A useful tool for habit-building is the idea of what we’ve called a “last-minute habit”. The idea isn’t to do something in the last moment; it’s to develop a last-minute habit. So when you’re planning your day, make sure to think about the consequences of your actions, and not wait until the end to make one of these choices. In other words, don’t go to the supermarket without having first thought about what you’re going to buy. If you do, you should go through each item and analyze it before you buy it.