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How To Develop Self Control In An Awkward Moment

You’ll get the chance to ask a question and make a point about something in one of the world’s most successful programs that has been around in various forms since the 1960s. The interview is conducted by James Altucher, a master marketer who is also known for his books, podcasts, and videos.

The interview is a little awkward because it comes from a man who has a voice like a robot. It’s sort of like talking to “an echo.” I guess this makes me feel like a robot. Anyway, he’s been the subject of plenty of interview questions, so I can’t just get comfortable for an awkward moment. I can only be my weird self.

After an awkward moment, I asked my questions first:

1. If James Altucher had a time machine, would he travel to the present?

He paused a bit, and then gave a kind of half “that’s a good question” “what time is it in the question” kind of answer, but he doesn’t know.

He said in my era, it’s more than likely that I would be having an awkward moment. He thinks the reason might have to do that moment in itself: the current times that we’re living in, the stresses they put on us, and how we’ve been taught to act. In the past, when you just didn’t know, he says, you could say:

“Oh, it’s the 1950s, you could be in the 1960s…it’s the same questions, the same way. It’s not a different experience. The only difference is the way people think. In the 1950s, it was different. In the 1990s, it’s the same thing.”

2. What did you learn working for John C. Dvorak, who wrote one of the most popular books of all time?

He said that it really was a gift that he was given. And he said:

“The book really was my gift to myself. I’m a person just like everyone else, and the same things are gonna happen to all of us in life. The biggest gift I was given was a book that I could use.”

I was really surprised in how much I got out of just that. He had to say that word, “gift,” because it’s so rare to hear it from someone. It’s kind-of hard to get someone to say, “I’m giving you something.”

My favorite quote from the whole conversation:

“I am so happy when I’m being helpful. It’s the opposite when I’m being annoying.”

3. What kind of advice do you have for other people in a similar situation as you were in this one?

He said that there are two things that he would tell the person in front of him who was in that situation:

• Don’t allow yourself to be angry at other people or things in your life unless you can make them better.

• Find an honest person.

It’s not a problem to look for someone to help you, but he told me:

“I do not have sympathy. I do not have an option to take the back seat and do whatever I want.”

4. What are your favorite books in the world?

His favorite book is The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald. He also said that he would have to mention to me the one about the Japanese people and the one about the Russian language.

5. Anything else you’d like to tell me?

He said:

“Life is what you make it, and all the choices you make are going to help you. It’s going to help you a lot, because you’re a good person with a lot of heart inside that you’re going to give 100%. Give all the gifts of being human to everyone you ever meet…