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How To Develop Self-discipline

In the end, we can have the most self-discipline if we are not self-pitying. The only time you can get to the place of self-pitying is when you become lost. And when you become lost, your self-pitying will only get you so far.

If you’re the sort of person who does well on self-test, you tend to develop a strong inner sense of accomplishment, and you can see the path forward for yourself, the way all the stars and planets and galaxies are lining up to point you in the direction of the ultimate goal. But if you’re the kind of person who does poorly on self-test, you’re prone to overindulge, you become obsessed with self-validation, and you miss the real prize, and you get lost.

I learned this lesson the hard way. I started out at a good distance, but the weight never felt like it belonged to me, and I kept getting lost: by eating too many junk foods that were bad for me as a person, and by watching too much TV. I fell off the wagon, and my self-discipline never got any stronger.

But with the help of one of my friends — a good friend — I’m beginning to recognize what’s inside me as an ally and become more consistent in my use of self-discipline.

I’m on the road away from self-pity, but the process of self-deprivation is almost impossible to reverse, and it won’t give you the results you want if you’re not also mindful of the positive changes it can bring.

Once we recognize the changes that a good self-discipline can give us, we’ll be more able to take advantage of those changes — and our lives will improve in many ways. The best advice I ever received in that regard came from a writer who lived in the 1920s. It’s true that he wasn’t at all successful in his life, and he had a lot of trouble trying to get his life together, but he learned the most about his life’s path, and his life’s path can also be found in his books. “Successful writers don’t have careers. They write a book, and they stay in that book.”

It wasn’t until I realized that the path I was on was not as promising as the one he described that I began to make the changes in my life that he had identified.

To summarize, if you can be consistent with your choices, you will discover that self-discipline opens up the door to many opportunities, you will find yourself on the way to more success than you may have imagined, and your life will be enriched.

If you cannot be consistent with your choices, then the door you’ll have to knock on will never open or will remain closed, and you’ll end up with the same life that you have now, with only that extra bit of suffering.

If, on the other hand, you are able to follow through with your self-discipline, then you’ll find yourself on a path that allows you to achieve the things you thought only time itself could provide you.

This realization comes by itself, but if you want to reach the next level in your life, where there’s no time, and a world where the sun never sets, you might like to hear how this self-discipline thing is done.

What You Need To Do If You Can’t Be Consistent

You might be one of those people who does not find yourself able to stay consistent in what they’re doing, because you’ve grown complacent in it, but a great part of being consistent is to change the way you’re doing it, and if you haven’t learned the lessons I’ve outlined and are still doing what you’ve been doing because it was how things always appeared to you to do it, then it will be difficult for you to adjust and adjust and adjust to things that have changed.

I’m not a psychologist, but the reason why self-discipline is so hard is that we all think it’s something we should want, but that it would be so easy to get if we just worked at it.