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How To Develop Your Own Self-esteem

If you don’t have self-esteem, you don’t belong. This short video is designed to help you learn to love yourself. And, more importantly, learn to appreciate the self you have.

When my parents divorced when I was in my early teens, I experienced a lot of distress. I struggled with self-esteem and with anxiety. After many months of therapy, self-love was one of my central practices, and I discovered the difference between the two. That discovery inspired me to write The Self Esteem Practical Video . The video has been viewed over 20 million times online and is used by therapists all over the world to help them practice self-love and self-acceptance in their patients. Check it out.

This website is for adults who wish to learn about the differences between the self-esteem practices of the self-actualizers, the non-self-actualizers and the “emotional contagion theory”. It is not for the children, who must find their own way. For that, you must go and read their work. The Self-Esteem Practical Video was created by me with the encouragement and support of the people who work with young people (such as the children’s psychiatrist who inspired me to write The Self-Esteem Practical Video ).

This website is only a brief introduction to the self-esteem process. It is best if you will come back and read my books: The Seven-Step Self-Improvement Plan You Don’t Need (or Won’t Need , if you’ve never tried it on yourself), and The Self-Expression and Self-Intelligence Workbook , which is a practical guide to the process of making choices about how and when to express your inner self: to be strong and to show up and be what you really are.

Self-Esteem can certainly help you to feel healthier and to have more friends than you did before. But it also has a dark side, in the form of a kind of emotional contagion which can make it harder than ever to find your way around in life. This self-esteem contagion might be particularly harmful to young people. This is why, once again, the adults need to learn more and do more. If we are to help children, we need to do it now, so that it won’t be too late.

Self-esteem: The Self-Help Way and The Seven-Step Self-Improvement Plan

Self-esteem is the idea that you are the best person you know how to be. Self-esteem is about what you feel and how you look, think and feel. It is also about having the ability to say what you want and need and be heard and understood, in a kind and respectful way. It means having the confidence to follow the guidance of your gut and your heart.

The self-esteem work is about doing:

1. What you want in your life

2. What it will take to get it

3. How you are going to find ways to get it

4. Why that will help you get it

5. How to stay on course by keeping going

6. How to get beyond feelings of self-deprecation, resentment, guilt or shame, and get out of the habit of blaming yourself.

Self-esteem includes:

1. Being proud of who a person is and feeling good about him or her

2. Being comfortable with his or her faults and flaws, and wanting to get over them.

3. Being comfortable with his or her strengths, skills and talents, and wanting to learn them.

4. Being confident in himself or herself.

Self-esteem begins and ends with you. You don’t know how you feel about yourself and who you are until you see where you’re stuck. I know for a fact that people who give a whole lot of attention to their feelings don’t work.