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How To Do The Impossible: Stop Cravings And Obsessive Compulsions

If you are an addict or suffer from compulsive food or exercise habits, these simple steps can help you make the necessary changes to live your best life. If you are a person who has trouble keeping yourself from checking a Facebook feed or checking emails or any other kind of electronic media for hours on end, you’ll find plenty of helpful information here too. And if you are an addict who has tried many, many times to give up and just give in, you’ll know the best place to start is from within.

A person who feels addicted to a common pleasure, such as video gaming or eating, needs to make a conscious effort to stop the compulsion and take a break. If you’re feeling anxious when you are in a shopping mall or waiting in line in a restaurant, chances are you might be tempted to check out your smartphone for a few more minutes, perhaps even checking Facebook, before taking a break. While these kinds of compulsive behaviors have become fairly regular in modern times, they actually predate the advent of modern media, and our early ancestors probably engaged in them to a much greater degree, if a little more discreetly. One of the most common ways to tell if you’re an addict is that there’s a strong desire to avoid your problem. If you’ll often need an urge to escape into your phone or to avoid something, you’re likely an addict.

If you want to try a new behavior to see if it makes you feel better or helps you with your goal, try trying something new that creates some friction, discomfort or discomfort that you previously avoided because you were trying to escape: 

In the “How to Do The Impossible: Stop Cravings And Obsessive Compulsions” book, I discuss how to deal with a few common behaviors—such as eating food or playing video games, that are often very pleasurable and easy to indulge. If you try these suggestions and they help you feel any different, you can feel good about it and have more incentive to try other things that you have been unable to do before when you felt stuck.

Take Action, Then Try It Again.

The hardest thing to avoid is a feeling of anxiety: try feeling it instead. Try to do something you haven’t done before or that is highly uncomfortable. Think about your motivations for doing it. Think about how much you enjoy it. Do something that requires some risk, that you’re not used to and may result in some discomfort for you. Then repeat.

As the saying goes, life is one big experiment, and if you don’t do the impossible you can try doing the common experience. What happens when you try the first and second impossible things you try? Sometimes your brain will find a way to deal with the discomfort by tricking you into trying the third, but you must find a way to overcome the brain trickery and get you to try all three. You can do that by thinking ahead and giving yourself a chance at the first to succeed.

As you start making these changes to get back in control of your life and make small changes that require a little bit of effort, you will be surprised at how much you can manage your impulses, how much easier it will be the second time. As you continue to make changes with a desire to return to the person you were before all this started, you will finally be free to enjoy your own life again rather than worry about what everyone else is going through. But you don’t have to take my word for it, just ask the thousands of people who have made the changes and come back to have a much better, fuller life. They are your heroes, but you should be proud of them too. Their ability to overcome the hardest things they have faced in their life and come back stronger and happier is a testimony to the power of the human spirit.