How To Find Your Perfect Place At Home

In the modern world, it’s easy to get “lost” in the city. Take time and focus on what’s really “right” for you; learn why you should live at home with your partner (if you are single) as a couple, or at home with a partner if you are in a committed relationship, or in a cohabiting relationship (if you’re not single); or learn how you will feel in the community, school or work where you want to live.

We live in a connected world that’s so much more complex than the world my parents had to move from, to come here and help create their new lives. My parents gave up their lives, homes, and property for me. It took me a long time to get used to that, but now I have it in me to help me find my perfect place.

This post is based on my experiences as a student living on my own, as well as in cohabiting relationships. Living alone has many advantages and disadvantages than living with a partner, depending on your needs, your preferences, where you want to live and how you feel in your life. I know there are plenty of factors to consider, but I wanted to share how I’ve been able to find the home I’ve always wanted.

Finding a home and cohabiting is difficult and time-consuming; if you’re interested in living independently I can’t convince you to give up everything you’ve got, to sacrifice what you thought was important and to abandon your partner and friends. I will try my best to highlight the points you should consider in pursuing a cohabiting relationship or living alone at home.

1. What are your financial goals for living alone?

You can’t simply “find” a place to live, or at least you can’t just go looking for one at random. You need to think about who you’re looking to live with, and which home will truly suit your needs.

There are a few things that have to be done to be eligible for a cohabitation or “living alone” apartment:

You need to pay your rent for a fixed period of time. If you’re living alone, you have this option. If you’re living with a partner or married couple it will be a more costly solution in the long run. You need to register and get approved as a tenant (this must be done within 120 days of your move-out date). You need to provide proof of income/income tax. You will need to pay all utility bills (including water, electric, gas, cable, internet or phone). You may have to provide credit reports and background checks as part of this process. This will not only cost money, but it’ll reduce your credit score too.

2. Do you enjoy living independently?

I had to learn that the hard way, so learn from my mistakes. Being on my own was the hardest decision of my life. It took me years to come to terms with it, but learning that this is the life I want is all worth it.

I’ve learned that I thrive on the solitude, the freedom to come to my own peace in the moment and spend time with people I love and care about in small settings.

3. Do you feel secure and safe? Would sleeping in your own bed at night be a worry?

This is a very complicated issue. In the past I would have given anything to sleep in my own bed at night. But if you plan to live independently, you can’t simply take a nightly nap after work (there are people who do this, and do it all the time – it’s not always a guarantee you’ll have the same sleep quality as when you’re with a partner or spouse – you’ll need a little extra time!) This is something I wish that I could have learned a long time ago, but I think in the future I will do my part and learn to relax, even under my first name.