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How To Get Over Your Self-hatred And Fear Of Missing Out

When you learn to embrace the fact that you don’t know everything, and that there are so many ways to succeed in every area of your life, you find yourself learning to not be a victim of the unknown. When you can’t even stand up to your own fears and frustrations, you have finally come to accept yourself and your flaws.

The biggest problem with self-esteem is you’re still not completely confident that you’re the best and the brightest. How can you ever claim credit for anything you do when nobody else believes in and rewards your effort? The answer is it’s possible to embrace your personal faults without blaming them on an external authority. As long as people like and don’t hate you for them, you own them and will be able to face them with a smile and without shame.

Here’s the thing: There are plenty of other “experts” that would disagree. They say that nobody deserves success and happiness, and that you have to earn it with hard work. They suggest that when you achieve something great, others will get jealous of you. They don’t believe you should achieve because of some external force, and they don’t think anyone can achieve anything without hard work and dedication.

You may not want to listen to all these people – what do you think about them?

1. I Don’t Care Who Believes What.

I’ve already seen how being “right” isn’t always good. So here’s the other way to look at it: Do you want to be the one telling someone else how to live? Do you want to control another’s life? Do you want to determine what others should feel? Do you want to tell the world what you should and shouldn’t feel? If that’s the case, I think people aren’t entitled to your opinions – particularly if you want to talk about how others should live.

In the end, your self-esteem isn’t defined just by who you’re trying to impress or who agrees with you. It’s also affected by how you act and how you treat yourself in general. If you don’t respect yourself enough, people don’t have faith in you. If you don’t treat yourself well enough, you never get the respect you deserve.

To be truly successful, you can only do things that make you feel good. Some people are good at that. Some people are good at telling their secrets or at expressing their love. Some people are naturally gifted at this, in different ways. But only you get to determine what you’re good at, and the path you choose is up to you. It’s not about others or about what other people think. If you’re going to be an expert on something, have the confidence to know what you believe about it, and be confident that no one else believes you’re better than them, no matter if they do or not. Don’t make the same mistake you made when you were 11: thinking you know everything and that you deserve to be the best.

If all you need to be motivated is an objective, scientific number, then you might have trouble achieving it. But as long as you don’t go too crazy and spend your time comparing yourself to others, or thinking that it’s some cosmic test, or about what people around you think, the numbers will become less important to you than the satisfaction you get from doing things for yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. There’s no single definition for what really defines success and happiness. The things you do have the most impact on how good you are, and that’s what matters most.

2. No One Is Good At Everything.

As you learn to accept yourself for who you are, you find yourself getting better and better at your craft. You become more confident in the way you think, and more confident in your ability to succeed. You know exactly what you should be doing to get the results you want, and why. You have a very clear roadmap for what you want yourself to achieve.