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How To Get To The Root Of A Problem

This article shares a simple yet powerful tool to get started on a path to self improvement. The author offers a practical guide for finding solutions with concrete and actionable steps you can implement.

When you want your life to be wonderful, you’re likely to get frustrated easily when you don’t. You might even think that life is meaningless. It seems life’s a bit like that. But, this frustration is a symptom of your own unconsciousness, rather than a symptom of life itself. The truth is, life is so wonderfully meaningful that it can become annoying to be unhappy for a while. This means that we often tend to look for a solution that is just a bit better than life already is.

So when this happens, what do we do? Here is the answer to my question: we can look for problems that are not yet resolved to find the root of the problem, then work towards a solution that will create long lasting happiness instead of short term happiness. When you find something you can work to resolve, you begin to change your behavior. Your behavior will change your life. So we must search for problems we can work on. Then one day, once we know what we will change, we can work on it. In turn, this will make us happier than we would have become if we stayed with who we were.

But we’re not going to change just because someone else tells us to do it. If we want change, we have to create the change ourselves. I am not suggesting that we wait for other people to change their behavior in order to become happier; I am saying that if we do not make a conscious effort to change ourselves we will be stuck with our own behavior for the rest of our lives, unable to change it.

When we talk about “becoming happier,” we are usually talking about having more time to spend with our loved ones and friends and even on our hobbies. However, most people do not look at their day to day, or even a day to week, and see more than the mundane events that occur in their day. If we want to “become happy,” we need to see the big picture.

For example, if you think of each day as a day, and every activity you do as part of your day, then why have three different calendars, which list events on different days and in different categories? Why do you have different goals, or to-dos, that are not based on an activity? This is what I call “the mundane.” We see these things over and over again, and we fail to see the beauty in our simple, everyday lives. We tend to view the mundane as “not important enough” and want to avoid it. In reality it can be a good place to start.

It’s one thing to see the mundane of life, but it’s another thing to actually change our behavior to live one of those mundane days with pleasure, rather than just feeling good and then forget about it, which is usually what we do.

Our life has a natural flow and order to it. When we spend most of our time in our day either working, or not working, or not doing something else (or doing something else in our free time, not focused specifically a task), we tend to become frustrated. Why does this happen? Well, not only do we not have control over where and when day goes, we don’t even have control over what we do in the day. What we do today is often a reflection of who we think we are. This is the reason that we often have this sense of not living our life.

This isn’t a problem that we can always change. It’s just a fact of being born into the world. We can only work to change our thoughts and behaviors in what we will define as our day to day, or even a small part of our everyday. Even if we were more productive and happy at this moment, tomorrow is a different day and a different life. In fact, this is how we get to where we are today; because we change it in small ways, and change it in a larger way, we will be able to transform our lives.

For example, let’s look back at our routine. We worked, had lunch (usually), went home and changed into different clothes. Or we went out on our hobby, or played tennis or whatever. We’re probably still working on our day schedule.