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How To Have A Perfectly Perfect Holiday

A perfect holiday might sound a bit too good to be true. It’s true: a perfect gift doesn’t exist. But it’s also true: having a perfectly perfect gift is the key to having a perfectly perfect holiday.

While people strive to attain more “perfection,” they often find their lives become more complicated and chaotic. It’s hard to maintain focus under a lot of pressure. And if your focus is on the wrong things, all of the stress piled onto all of the other things can create all kinds of problems. It’s also easy to feel hopeless about the season ahead.

One of the biggest problems facing people in this season is that they tend to think about the holidays in abstract terms. This leads them to not look at a single detail in the holiday season with the same intense focus they used to.

This problem really isn’t that hard to combat. You would think that the more intensely they focused on the past seasons, the better they’d get at it, but they don’t. People with focus really do get better at what they do. But the way they get better at it really varies based on the person.

I like to think that I am relatively well-trained on how to spend the holidays. I have always been a big fan of holidays, both in the present and in the past. Even though I don’t know a very good strategy for the holiday season, I do know how to spend a really great life. So as a child and young adult, I decided if I really wanted to enjoy the holidays I would have to start working on improving how I approach everything.

My Christmas Advice is the gift I think many of us can most benefit from. If you’re not sure if you can benefit from the Christmas advice, you’re not the only one. It’s just too easy to fall into the trap of not giving your attention to the “big ticket purchases” of December, or even the small things of the year like holiday decor, family traditions, or a favorite place for you at work. When you realize how much of the year is “lost” it can be easier than you may think to step up to find a better focus.

The Gift You Really Want This Holiday Season

There is no need to reinvent the wheel here: some of the stuff I recommend here should be obvious to most people.

When people approach me for advice, I ask them what their “ideal holiday gift” is. Then I ask myself the same question. Do “I” like the person? Do they have everything they want? I look at them and ask myself three things: are they honest and straightforward? Do they have a goal? Do they have time? Now, I am not looking for every “ideal gift” that exists. I like books or a dress for my girlfriend and I think she’s perfect. I do not ask if you can afford “the best Christmas ever.” I care about the people around me more than I do money.

If your answer is yes to all three, then you should probably ask what you really want.

Don’t be that person who makes the request to have a perfect holiday that leaves me feeling left out, alone, and without any gifts. That person is a person who is not only trying to tell me the answer but is also trying to convince me that my answers to their questions are the only acceptable ones.

This is not a season to complain about how hard it is to find what you want this year. This is a season for you to be responsible for yourself and help you find the holiday gifts that you really want. In this process you can build your relationships. You can improve your work performance and get to know your coworkers better. You can find your own happy place and really enjoy the holidays.