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How To Keep A Relationship Healthy With A Sugar Baby

Sugar may make us feel good, but it has the exact same effect on the brains of children as alcohol does.

Sugar may make us feel good, but to help our kids thrive, we should be looking at all those little reasons they might choose to give into temptation and choosing to keep things in perspective. One sugar baby I spoke with recently was really proud of her relationship with her sugar daddy, and then we asked her how much sugar sugar daddy’s she was actually consuming. She was shocked and had to look back at her calendar to recall a point in time when she hadn’t taken in anywhere near the amount she’d been told she took in. This is not to say that she is necessarily dependent on a relationship that takes money to keep. She simply loves this person, and doesn’t want to hurt them in any way. It’s just to remind us that when we are tempted to look away it doesn’t mean there are no other options. If there is no other choice available, we should keep a healthy perspective.

And don’t let kids fall prey to self-help gurus who are using sugar and alcohol to manipulate kids into giving them money .

“You can talk about making money and it will not help kids to feel connected to you if they are addicted to sugar or alcohol.” (From the blog )  (The author’s response )

The more I learn about this form of social engineering, the more I believe it is a way to keep families poor by exploiting the weakness of their children. When I hear stories like this, I want us to be thinking back to this verse: “If you love me, you will keep my commandments . Love me , and I will keep your word.” ( John 14:15 ) It’s a simple sentence, but I could never really understand how some people could use it to deceive other people. This really is one of the most important verses in the Bible, yet it seems too many people who know the Bible really need some help getting it into their heads. And this particular example is about how we need to be on guard for this type of manipulation of children. As soon as I hear this verse, I immediately think about parents who don’t always make time to teach their children the importance of keeping family and community commitments. I think of the parents who, when the phone rings at 4AM, say hello on the way to pick up the kids but say nothing as they walk over to their computer to take on a half hour job. I think of the parents who will call their family to see how the baby is doing, then when they answer the phone, get very angry when the voice on the other end shouts how the kids aren’t doing well and needs to go home. Then I think of how we parents are taught to go out of our way to feed, clothe, and be present for each of our kids. I often wonder how many of us do this when we are tempted to leave them alone.

When I was young, my family was very close, but my parents knew how to raise good kids who were happy with their lives. I remember the time my mom made a bet with my sister about whether I could go to the park on a Saturday morning and make friends with as many different kids as possible. If I could, my mom would get all the candy from the candy factory and give it to me. I went out and made quite a few nice kids my age my best friend, and the first child I remember being born had just turned one. My family didn’t know how to keep close relationships and build trust with each other, and I think it might have been because we weren, well, busy. 

I know how blessed I am to have had wonderful parents who taught me the importance of keeping promises and not letting money take precedence over everything when it comes to family. I don’t want to make this sound like I thought my family was really successful, but that was before my dad started teaching us that family is what makes a relationship successful. 

The truth of the matter is that we are all at different places in our lives and there are times when we just need a little time to ourselves for work, family, and friends.