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How To Make Time For Love, Sex And Meditation

I’ve always thought there wasn’t a better definition of the good life than spending time with those you love, having great sex and meditating. There may simply not be a better combination of things people enjoy than these three things. This article contains some thoughts for what you can do to improve the quality of life of those who love you… but you’ll have to read the article to find out. I haven’t written much about meditation (I did write a good one years ago), but I still do try to meditate sometimes.

What do you want your life to look like? Are you looking to have the best, most fulfilling life possible? Then you are going to want to look for those things. But then what? I’ve done a bit of self-study and here is the best piece of advice I can give you. Look after yourself. Take care of yourself, don’t go into debt, and don’t drink or do drugs. You have to have a healthy body, to have a healthy mind, to have a healthy soul. And for some, these things don’t even require your thinking, because the body knows how to do it all automatically. For some, this is a lot to digest. When you don’t have healthy relationships and habits, you won’t achieve as many of those goals (and it usually isn’t easy). There is no such a thing as a perfect life and it’s never really a good thing when we compare ourselves against some arbitrary standard. You have got to decide for yourself how you want your life to look like. That can only happen through self-advocacy and self-fulfillment.

The Good Life – The Life Of A Self-Actualized Bodhisattva You all know about the Bodhisattva vow. The bodhisattva does not just take refuge in the Buddha but also in the sangha of Buddhism. They are like one single person, who takes refuge in all things with the mind, whether they are the Buddha-Nature or anything else, be it the Buddha’s disciples, the dharma in general, or the cosmos in general. And yet, in practice, if we don’t make it an inner focus, and start using the mind to be more consciously involved in things that we have a real connection/connection with in this world, then we are only having an inner life that is very incomplete. So what happens is we try to put the full force of the Buddha’s mind into our own. This is very easy in meditation but very difficult if we try this in the world. In the words of Dzogchen Rinpoche:  “If you are meditating on your own consciousness , and not focusing on any external awareness, then you are going to see your own body as having its own mind, and that is a very difficult condition” (Dzogchen Rinpoche on Mindfulness Meditation). In the world, we see our lives as having more of a goal like “winning the lottery,” “making it big,” “beating the big-lots,” or “being the first people to run a marathon.” These things are goals, not things we find within ourselves, like “being the first to sit at that chair on the subway.” We all know about the “winner” and “loser” syndrome, but we also know that we are going to be “loser” and “winner” over the course of our lives, so we do have the ability to have a winning lottery ticket and get rich, and we also have the ability to be the first people to go on a marathon in the middle of New York City in the middle of a terrible winter storm, and we may win this time, but when we are 65, we may be a “loser” and our kids will not always be interested. That’s because when it comes down to it, the winning lottery ticket comes down to luck. If it were up to us, we would not get rich by getting married. We would get rich by going out and getting other people to marry us, because of our unique connection with the universe. But luck is not something we are responsible for. You and I are not responsible for it either. We can try to improve things and hope that this will happen, but our own luck is not going to change for the better . Some people have said to me and several others that they found it impossible to stop their lives from going downhill after their parents passed away. I can totally understand if this is your opinion as well. My opinion is that this is actually a blessing rather than a curse. In fact, the more we are concerned with what is happening in our life, the more time we spend worrying, and the more this goes on, the deeper we become immersed in selfishness.