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How To Make Yourself Get Up With A Smile

I was walking on the sidewalk about a month ago and caught sight of a very attractive redhead. The woman had on blue pants, matching blue socks, and a short-sleeved yellow T-shirt. It was exactly the kind of look you usually see in a local yoga instructor, except this redhead was wearing an orange, long-sleeved T-shirt. She also looked… different. She was so different that I didn’t even bother saying hello or anything, I just kept walking.

Most of us are not aware of the fact that our emotions can change from one day to the next. Our behavior can and will appear completely different in the eyes of the other person. That is one of the reasons that we are not aware of the changes in our own emotions. The other reason is the fact that our emotions are not in our eyes. That’s why we often cannot spot it even when trying to get up the courage to do so. When you are stressed, your face can look angry, sad, or even sadder. The expression on your face could even change according to the emotions you are feeling. The reason you cannot tell what your reactions will be, is because your mind keeps changing and thinking over and over. It doesn’t matter what you say to yourself or what your mind is saying to you. It can keep trying different interpretations, like, “Maybe I am trying too hard to be nice. Maybe she sees me as someone who is being selfish.” Whatever interpretation the mind thinks, the emotions will make the mind change the expression of your face to the one you actually feel.

The same is true for a person with a smile on their face. It is very difficult for a one-year-old to make a serious face. It’s hard enough for an adult to make a serious face. For a two-year-old and even a four-year-old, it is still too early to be serious. So the mind thinks over the scenario and tries its best to make you laugh or smile so that the child makes the smile and the mother thinks that you are serious. Most of the time, the smile will always be there. But then something funny happens.

You notice that there are no actual words on the outside of the shirt. You can’t see either the words or the letters. But that does not matter. As soon as the mind sees an object in front of it, it will make a mind-state about it. The mind might keep saying, “Maybe we should be nice about it,” or, “maybe she does not like that.” The mind will keep thinking about it, which causes your reaction to the same result, the same face. The only difference between the two reactions is what you say to yourself about it.

It is very important that we not have our reactions controlled by our mind. There is much evidence that we should have our reactions in our control. The problem is that most of us seem to have a tendency to say to the mind, “I will say it this way… ” Or, “I will say it this way…” These reactions are controlled by our thoughts. That is one of the reasons why we are able to make the face. It is also a reason why we can get the same facial expression in different situations. The other reason is that we are able to think that because we are not in control of the emotions. We usually want to control them but can’t because they are not even inside our brains.

How much do we want our lives to turn out differently, compared to what it is today?

“All life is a dream.” –The Dalai Lama

“All is illusion.” –Robert Oppenheimer

“The world as is and as it is meant to be is the only reality…. ” –Unknown

Here are some exercises that you can do to improve your awareness of emotions and the mind. You can practice all these exercises to bring your reactions in line with what you actually feel. You can learn to say to yourself, “I am happy” instead of “I am sad” and “I am not sad” instead of “I’m not happy.” You can learn to get the proper expression of your facial feelings so that you can see what those feelings represent. You can learn to see the emotions inside your own mind.

Start with this short practice in mindfulness and the present-moment. As with most meditations, this is a simple enough practice. You’ll be amazed by the results!

Meditate for 10 minutes. Notice the present moment.

When you sit in meditation, imagine that you are sitting on a cushion or bench. You don’t need any furniture: just sit up straight with your back straight and your legs relaxed. This is your meditation object.