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How To Overcome Cravings

You always say what you must — you cannot say what you are. And when you can let go of the self-concept that is attached to the label “self’…”

But you also say you think that you are me or me or myself, in the manner of a self, the me that always feels I must not show my weaknesses. You can’t show a person that they are more than an idea that you cling to. The people that you feel closest to are in the least connected with the idea of self and that self does not know what it is.

Because of this, you want to be “special”

To have a name – to be a separate identity so that it is unique to you and to not be tainted with guilt over what others think what you are.

The only way the world can see a difference between you and me is that you know it.

And because of this,

You are a person who is not afraid to be vulnerable.

So, the only thing that gets to you is when you are vulnerable, you have let go of this feeling that you have to be above everyone because you have your special self to protect:

“I know I’m not good enough and I know I have a lot to learn about myself and what I want out of life”

But you don’t know what to do with yourself, so you can’t do the things you want the best.

“I know I’m flawed – I’ve let myself down and I know that there are a lot of things I need to fix in my life”

It’s not that you have no idea of yourself – this is the first line you are working from, you have no idea what you actually are.

“And at the same time, I know that I will never truly understand myself, or what I really want, or really achieve. I know that if that happens, then I will feel I am losing something that I should have been able to have. But I don’t want to lose the things that I have – I would rather that what I have be great than great not be great”

The only way you know “what you ARE”

is when you let go of the “need to be”, the idea that if you can achieve the impossible, you are worthy – you are special and superior.

When you let go of the idea that “what has no value,” you can give others more.

If you can’t give because you want to know “what you need,” you can never know.

Instead you start from the bottom and work up, from being comfortable to becoming successful. And then, because it was something you felt that you had to learn to do, you let yourself go and it was then when you truly know what you are doing.

I’ve seen this happen in my own life. It’s not as simple as feeling “I am” or “I’m special,” it’s a much deeper process of letting go of what the “label” of “self” has brought forth in you, of realizing that it is something that is not you, but is in fact something that you are.