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How To Stop Worrying And Love Your Body

Why do we still obsess about our weight and worry about our body? Why is it hard to simply enjoy our body? Why should anyone ever be miserable about their body? I’ll explore many of the issues in this category, including body image, and why you might not understand why you don’t love your body in the way you think you do.

We all have body issues. I’ll ask you to think about the problem, then, what are your responses. How do you think about yourself? What do you think about your body? If you feel your self-image is out of control, please share some coping strategies you’ve found helpful.

When I am feeling upset and angry at myself, I can often find great pleasure in the words that come out: “If you’re unhappy about your thoughts, your thoughts will never change.” “If your thoughts about yourself are destructive, then you’ll never be happy.” “If you have destructive thoughts about yourself, it’s really unlikely you’ll ever be truly happy. So why bother thinking?” Why would that be? Because when you consider a change of beliefs and a change in how you behave as a result of changing beliefs, you can literally change your body and mind at the same time. I do it all the time. That’s a big part of why yoga and meditation seem to be so helpful.

We might think, “If I just do some yoga, my body will be happier, I’ll be healthy, and I’ll live a long, healthy life.” But I’m talking about doing a process that is going to take an enormous amount of effort. If you want to change your body, you can’t walk in to the studio and say “Let’s do a class!” Then you can say to a professional, “Let’s change my beliefs about myself.” That takes a huge amount of time, patience, and effort. And it’s so important to make that change in a space with others who will support you in changing your beliefs. I often speak to women at my Yoga Center who are very concerned with the negative messages they have received from their parents. After they left home, they were raised to be very self-critical, and they often feel a lot of pain about how they look. These girls want to do yoga because they want to love themselves and how they look. But it takes a lot of effort to love yourself as well as we can, and we all know how painful self-worth can be. I can’t blame these girls for feeling self-critical. I’m so much happier for them when they take care of themselves and learn to love themselves for who they are. That’s not taking a break from yoga, though, but rather, it’s about love for ourselves and our bodies. It’s a process that can take a long time. If you’re going to be living a life guided by your own beliefs about yourself, it’s about taking care of them.

As I am writing this message, I’m sitting in my living room, surrounded by photographs of my children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and great-great-grandchildren. If you’ve read some of my articles about our legacy and legacy building, you know that I’m obsessed with my future. That’s probably why all of these pictures have photos of grandchildren in them. They’re my people. I love all of them, and it’s a special privilege to have such a rich and colorful family to share this message with. We all have a rich legacy to pass on to the next generation. If you’ve got a child, have you already built a legacy for them? This is how I’ve built mine: when I was young, my older self was a really anxious, stressed out, and unhappy person living in an unruly relationship with my teenage self. It started out with anger and resentment and then turned into grief and anger, and then grief turned to depression and anger to depression before settling into a very happy place with my teenage self. There’s a pattern here. When you’re in a state of distress, it’s easy for you to start thinking about things like, “What if my girlfriend comes and breaks my heart?” We all like the idea of being in love. And in that state of mind, you start thinking about the opposite. You think about everything you don’t want that other person to have. If your partner doesn’t make you happy, well, then you’re just going to be miserable, right? That’s the way you rationalize it in your head.