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How To Talk About Sex To Your Teenager

For most parents, sex is a sensitive topic that should only be discussed with a trusted friend and adult, with the understanding that you’re talking about something that can be really embarrassing.

In a recent survey, 80% of youth said that having sex at a younger age is OK, however when they turned 18, less than half of them agreed that it was OK to share their secret. In order to avoid embarrassment in these situations, it’s vital to know what to do when your teen has a few questions about sex. This is especially important in a place like the church where the majority of young people are having intimate, casual sexual relations.

If you’re a young parent who is looking for a little advice, you are in the right place. Here are some things you need to know to talk about sex with your teens without being embarrassed.

*This article is not intended to be a substitute for advice from a medical professional, a doctor, or any other qualified professional. If you have questions or concerns about any health issues you must discuss with an appropriate health professional, contact your health care provider or a local health department.

*The information below is a general guideline, and each parent should discuss different issues, including the age of sexual consent, with their teens.

*It is a really good idea to have a chat with your teen before they reveal any of this stuff. Talk about why it’s wrong to tell your partner what you’ve done or have any concerns of any kind, and don’t avoid the subject altogether. I understand you’d prefer to do things your way and to avoid a conflict (with your spouse, say) but you have to at least give your teenager the opportunity to explain themselves.

*Young people have a really hard time telling your family what they’re doing or why they need help. Let them know that they have the right to tell you if they feel uncomfortable about what you’re doing. If they do, then make arrangements to meet at a time that’s safe for them, preferably while they are in one of your parents’ rooms.

*If your teen is still in a relationship with someone, or if they are dating, talk to your teen and let them know why they aren’t ready to go any further in that relationship. Be sure to stress that your teen needs to grow up for the relationship to work well. Sometimes teens get into relationships for a variety of reasons, not all of which are healthy. Many teens are simply looking for an emotional connection and can learn to enjoy other forms of intimacy if they don’t abuse your trust.

*If your teen is still at a young age, make sure to discuss all of the important things with them. Let them know what makes you truly happy, what you’re looking for in a girlfriend or boyfriend, what you’re doing when you’re not having sex, and why they shouldn’t try to get you pregnant. If they really are ready to have sex, there’ll almost definitely be a point where they will ask if they can’t because they are not in a relationship.

*Remember that this is only your teen talking. The last thing you need is an adult to say what they’ve done or where they are with their lives because they “are only 17”. The reality often lies much deeper. They’re often very young and still growing. A healthy relationship at a young age requires patience and understanding, it allows children the opportunity to grow up, and it prepares them for what comes after.

A parent’s primary role is to protect and nurture their youth, but if sex is something that is still being discussed in the home, then it’s time to consider a more serious attitude change. In a time of sexual promiscuity and high teens birthrate, you might want to consider having your teen start dating.