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How To Write A Letter For An Loved One — As A Couple

For loved ones and friends with terminal illness, they may not want to express their feelings openly, because they may be judged by other family members or friends by their lack of support. However, writing a letter that expresses your feelings is a simple, powerful way to let your loved one know you care.

Writing a letter for a loved one as a couple is a simple, powerful way to let your loved one know that you care. When you are writing for a loved one in the last stages of his or her life, your response should not contain any of the negative language that is commonly used by people mourning the loss of a loved one. Instead, a respectful and caring letter is what is necessary.

As your loved one’s illness progresses, so will your desire and willingness to express your love for them, but you can express how you feel even without words. You may find that your relationship with your loved one becomes less emotional and more physical as your symptoms progress.

Here are some important points to remember when you are expressing your love for your terminal illness loved one:

·       Be genuine and honest – You must acknowledge that you are truly, deeply, and unconditionally in love with your loved one.

·       Do NOT use any negative terms or words to describe your loved one.

·       Be sensitive and compassionate.

You can express an opinion about your loved one at any time, without offending or upsetting them.

·       Express that you hope your loved one is receiving the care and attention he or she needs to be comfortable and happy.

·       Express your feelings of love and care for your loved one and the love and affection you feel for each other.

·       Express respect and admiration for your loved one.

·       Express that you love your loved one and appreciate everything that he or she has done for you.

·       Express that you are looking forward to all the positive things your loved one will do in your future, and want to ensure that he or she will have everything he or she needs to be able to live a full and healthy life.

·       Be patient and gentle with your loved one.

·       Express that your love for your loved one means the world to you, and that it will be the focus of your love for him.

·       Express that you are trying to help your loved one by providing love and the hope and resources he or she needs.

·       Express your respect and appreciation for the caring and understanding way your loved one continues to care for you in your hospital room.

·       Express that you are excited about the future that your loved one will be able to enjoy.

·       Tell your loved one that you need to take care of yourself first.

You must always remember the following statements:

·       Your loved one is in an environment where love is important and it continues to be a focus of your love for each other.

·       In many ways, you are both in very serious circumstances.

·       If your loved one were to read this, he or she would realize that your desire to share your feelings is a sign of respect and caring and that you both value and value one another.

                You do not need to be scared to tell your loved one what you honestly feel.

The letter should end with the words “Best, Melissa

In the last two years of her life Cynthia received the highest levels of treatment from the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center, but she still had serious limitations that limited her ability to interact socially and leave her home. She was forced to eat with her family instead of eating with a food service, and she would often visit with us on the weekends because her food was prepared and sent to her through a service.