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How We Can Change Our Thinking About Sex And Its Function

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It is an often-discussed debate over women’s sexual health, but it really doesn’t matter. For me, sexuality is about finding fulfillment, and satisfying my most basic human need. That is sex for me, and sex for some of my best friends. Sex, like anything I do, is not intrinsically good or bad. If it is right for me that my sex partner(s) be able to reach their climax at the right time, I am happy with that. If it is necessary for the health of a relationship, well, well, you have to take your chances. There are some wonderful and healthy ways that I’m aware of for sex that do not involve ejaculation (or other genital stimulation) and that is more in line with what I’ve learned from my own personal experiences. They are not for everyone, but they can make a significant impact on a woman’s sexual health.

The bottom line is to look for something that will allow you to have a satisfying sex life and to live life without worry that you need to orgasm before you fall asleep.

Frequency Of Sex, Time Per Week, With Gaps, And Other Factors

As the average women ages, she needs more sexual experience. This may in turn increase her desire for sex, and this brings us to another key aspect of our lives; her relationship (or lack thereof) with her partner. This can be due to an aging body — a more permissive attitude toward sex (which is, after all a physical act that requires the male partner to make his own physical expression for a woman’s pleasure and satisfaction) — a change in her level of sexual drive — which may be due to increased confidence in her own appearance, her ability to attract a sex partner, or her financial situation. There may be a number of reasons a woman will desire more sex, but as a woman grows older, these motivations tend to increase (although not always, by much).

There are a few methods for assessing desire based on your age.

One is the “sex desire questionnaire” that has been used for a number of years by the CDC’s National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). The questionnaire starts off by asking a number of questions. The following are a few of the questions:

How frequently, in the last 3 months, did you: (1) Have intercourse without the consent of the other person? OR,

(2) Have intercourse with some partner(s) whom you did not wish to have intercourse with? OR,

(3) Have intercourse with a partner whom you strongly disliked? This is followed by a list (based on a scale from 1 to 7, where 1 is “rarely,” 2 is “everytime,” and 3 is “all the time), of all the men she had sex with in the last 3 months. The next step then is to answer a number of questions which include whether you have sex “always,” “often,” “sometimes,” “rarely,” or “never.”

The questionnaires are not perfect, but they are pretty effective for assessing desire on a case-by-case basis. Most studies show the desire questionnaire being about on par with the other 2 methods. I’ve taken the questionnaire in the past and used it to test my own desire (with great success). I had sex just once during that time; my last time was the month before I took the questionnaire and I had sex 6 times in that time period (as measured by the questionnaire). I went on to find a sex partner, but he didn’t want to have sex with me. I would still like to find a satisfying sex life, however.

An interesting survey I found on a website is the “Fifty Shades of Grey” questionnaire. The authors, Deborah and Scott Broom, conducted an extensive study on sexuality and desire that is fascinating to read. They found that the “Fifty Shades of Grey” series did not have a huge effect on desire; it was the “romance factor” they found that elevated desire.