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How We Deal With Anger

Anger is a natural response to perceived losses or failures in life, or just to being unhappy. It’s a natural reaction to the unfairness or the cruelty of the world. Anger is an important component of life, but most of us aren’t aware of its power. We know the pain we feel can be relieved. We even know which medications might work. But we aren’t aware of the pain that comes with anger.

How to overcome anger is an important step toward peace and personal growth. Anger is not necessarily a bad thing. One of the key benefits of anger is that it provides a way to express your thoughts and feelings to your children, siblings, and friends. Anger can also help us discover why our children behave the way they do.

If you are an adult and it is important to you to be a part of your children’s lives, or if you have other children involved with their lives, you may find anger serves as a natural reaction to their behavior. If that isn’t the case for you, however, we can learn to accept, even embrace, those emotions and behaviors. We can learn to tolerate them and let go of the anger to create more positive feelings. As we do that, we can begin to see more clearly what’s happening in the world and how the life lessons have been learned.

The following are five ways to experience more compassion and better deal with anger.

1 ) Meditate on the pain without allowing the anger to affect you. The key to dealing with anger is to simply observe without allowing anger to define you. Observe with insight and see with the compassion you should have for others. See more clearly what is truly on everyone’s mind, without letting anger make your perception of the world distorted.

2 ) Practice the compassion you should have for all the people you see with anger. While the expression of anger is helpful, to truly appreciate the pain, you need to understand its cause. You must experience the pain in itself to know the pain of others.

3 ) Let go of your fear of anger. It’s important to experience anger with your whole heart, and it is never helpful to become paralyzed by it. Anger is often a natural and useful urge, so learn to accept it without taking it too far. In anger, we can understand and accept the hurt that someone has endured. By letting go of our anger, we gain some perspective on our own needs and what we are willing to give to others.

4 ) Listen for the message of anger. When you watch someone get angry, you often hear the message of anger. Some people don’t hear the message at all. But those who do know the message of anger often feel relief and compassion. They may feel the pain of others and realize they are not so different. When we understand, we can experience greater peace and understanding. In this way, we can learn how to better respond in times of anger.

5 ) Learn how to identify the source of anger, when it arises and why it happens. By learning how to identify anger, we can better control it to the extent necessary. This is part of the process of changing how we can deal with anger. We can learn the different parts that create anger and change how we practice our acceptance.

These techniques are helpful methods for facing anger when you are faced with it. The key to dealing with anger is not to be paralyzed by it though, but to be able to control how it manifests.

This blog shares the power of compassion with readers. You can find me on Facebook as Tanya Marie Thompson.