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How What Others Are Doing Can Really Make A Difference To You

Most people are able to control their decisions, but what if you decide to act on what others are doing? This will help you feel more powerful if you are surrounded by people who have different opinions, but are in alignment on what to do. When you know that, you know you can act without question.

When you are in alignment with others in a positive way — by giving credit to others for the successes they’ve had and acknowledging and supporting those who have the hard choices, you’re able to move from autopilot to a feeling of freedom that is empowering. Then you know you can take on a role within the collective decision making process. You’ll be a stronger leader and take on more responsibility because you have a great deal of power to shift the direction of the group and get it moving in the right direction. You are the catalyst for the direction change. By being responsible you can help build a new community, bring people on board and, in turn, take on more responsibility.

This is a great way to take a leadership role in the group because you are able to take your place amongst your peers and be accountable for the success of the group. They will be inspired to go past the stereotypes that have governed them and find their own true, authentic paths. If this doesn’t take them out of the box that they’ve been in, then nothing will. If this feels hard, let’s do a little example of it.

One of my best friends who I haven’t seen in a while, I asked her to come down to the front yard for a chat. She has been my closest friend for quite a good long while now, and I know that she cares deeply about other people. She asked me about my plans for the coming weeks. I told her that I would be on vacation until Thursday, and she asked me if I ever plan on doing anything like that in the future. I told her that I do. She was surprised, and even more so, surprised by how interested I was in going on a vacation.

I told her that I had one thing I wanted to do in the coming weeks. It involved going out of my way to help her, someone who has been such a great support and influence in my life. I started talking to her about some of the things that she was doing to make her life better, and she told me that she was going to try a different diet, and that she would probably have some weight loss surgery within the next few weeks. I told her that if she was concerned about her weight, she should talk to a professional. But at this point I felt that I was speaking for me and my views, so I said that I believed that she would benefit from some weight loss surgery.

She smiled, and said, “But don’t worry. If you think that the weight loss surgery is dangerous, then we’re just going to have surgery and start over for the life of this relationship!” I nodded in agreement, and she finished out the conversation.

She then told me a funny story: that one of the doctors gave her, a skinny young woman back then, a list of things that she should do to get the surgery done. She picked the first one, which was to drink an entire 32 oz. bottle of water.

She mentioned that she and her husband had just moved back into New York City, in a new apartment, and she had wanted to be more active the last few months of her period.

She said it felt like everything had felt like it was hitting her in her gut at the same time, and it hadn’t felt comfortable to do anything for three weeks. She had never felt this way before and was so scared that she couldn’t do anything. Then a friend had come over and she had shared that story.

After they left, she went to shower for a bit, and felt like she was going to vomit. Then she started telling me that she just didn’t feel like being in this space. And then I heard her talking over the phone about what she was going to tell me later, and I heard her talking about how they said that there was something in the water.