What Do You Really Do With Your Days?

I answer a common question I am frequently asked in my work with clients: what do you really do with your days? With some new insight into my own life and the challenges facing people in my work, I present this video to help clients explore a deeper answer.

Some of my clients have asked me what they should do after I say they need to stop complaining about their life. But my answer depends. My work is helping people stop feeling the need to constantly complain, so to help clients deal with the stress of day-to-day living, my advice typically ends there. Instead I share a few simple strategies that I use here and there with fellow women who live a busy life, day-to-day, and want to better understand who they are, what they’re trying to accomplish, and why they’re struggling. I also share three strategies that are specific to my own experience as I tackle the same questions. I encourage all women with whom I share such ideas to give them a try yourself.

What Is the Purpose of Our Lives?

Why do we live? Why do we work? Why do we look at the world from a particular perspective? There are dozens of answers that could be given to the question, but when the question is: how do I use my days to make good choices, good choices for my family, good choices for the future, good choices for my friends and family members? that question becomes the most poignant question that must be answered.

To help answer the question of why we create value and pursue opportunities, I’ve compiled a list of reasons. I’ve tried to separate our answers by what the goal is and what we are trying to achieve. A few things worth noting before we start:

This list is not meant to be exhaustive. This list is designed to give the reader a perspective on the life choices they face today, and what a life with less choices (or nothing to choose from) might look like. It is also a guide for my own personal growth and the way I relate to one of my own primary motivations for writing this blog: I’m here to listen to my clients talk about their day-to-day struggles and understand how to help them manage them. If you’re interested in finding another answer, this is not the place to find it. If you are curious about why you want to create value and want to learn why you live the way you do, read this and the next post in this series! This list is meant to be for men or women; there’s no reason we can’t think about this as a women’s movement. Women come to my blog not to learn about my life and how to make it more like mine, but to learn how to live their own life and find that answer. For some, that answer might be to quit their job, find an excellent partner, and pursue a passion. For others, it might be to find more quality time with their family, to give to charitable organizations, or to take a life-changing course. Whatever they are interested in pursuing, the purpose of living is to help them live the life that they want to live. They deserve to live the way they want to live!

What Are the Goals of a Life?

I can never say with confidence that what you choose to want, will fit right into the category of the goals of someone with more life experience. I can, however, say that there are certain kinds of goals that I have come to admire, and these goals are not always the typical goals one might imagine. Why should you admire your goals? Here are a few:

1. The goal must be realistic. You need a goal, but you have to have one you know in your mind is realistic, achievable, and that you can easily accomplish. The things you do are what actually defines who you are and how good you are. If you want to be a writer, if you want to be a doctor, if you want to be rich, great! I’m not suggesting you start by reading 20 different novels or going back to school or taking more classes than you are ready for.