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What I Learned From Getting Arrested In A Fight

If that’s all it takes to calm someone down, you should know! My first lesson as a cop involved a woman who, after she had just gotten out of another heated arguments, tried to grab the officer’s handgun, and when he threatened to handcuff me, she was unable to control her temper.

If that’s all it takes to calm someone down, you should know! I was on my way to a traffic accident when I saw an apparently intoxicated, disoriented woman who wanted to fight. So I got out of my car, put my hands on the rear of her passenger seat, and warned her that I wasn’t going to hurt her. Then I asked her what was wrong. The woman refused to tell me anything and started swearing at me. So I pulled out my weapon and warned her again. But this time she relented and started to tell me what had happened. I got out of the car at that point and asked her what led her to want to fight me. And the whole time she kept swearing and asking me more questions. That’s when I knew she was an alcoholic.

How Do You Know When To Ask, “What’s Wrong?”

You should probably know that when you’ve got a woman who’s drunk, the best thing you can do is ask her, “what happened?” There will probably be no need to force people to talk after that. But if I had any fear of being arrested for not protecting her, she would have kept telling me things, and I’d have had no choice but to ask her more questions… right? No, I should have asked her for her license and registration. Asking for any kind of documentation, no matter how small the problem, is a sign that you really don’t trust her and that you’re going to make her the enemy. So let go of your fear to protect her and listen to what she tells you. If she’s too drunk by the end of it, she won’t be the only ones who will take the blame! But if it’s a small problem, I’m going to assume that you aren’t going to hurt her. I’ve been doing this long enough to know, when the situation is really bad, they’ll usually fight. Because they don’t want to be a problem when they come home from work and it could end up going like this.

After the initial incident, I knew I just had to take the woman to a hospital to get her checked out. At the hospital, I learned that she had a serious broken leg (she had been punched by another man when she was trying to take his car keys). She was also wearing a black, knee-high leather glove that was so tight that it was biting into her flesh. So even though I didn’t hit her or choke her, I had to have a search on her to make sure that she hadn’t injured herself to make that happen. She was also drunk enough that the nurse thought she was pregnant when she took a look at her. I was hoping that that would be the case because I had to have a blood test done to make sure that I wasn’t carrying any diseases, but she told me that she wasn’t (she had a boyfriend). So I guess the best course of action is to be safe than sorry. And with that said, it’s also important to know (when it comes to violence) that the person can always just say, “it’s been too long.” That’s what they told me, and I took that statement as a warning not to do anything to further make the situation worse.

It’s important to know that even if a person is arrested, you don’t have to stay glued to the news or the police scanner just because it’s the news. It’s hard to get used to the idea of a sober person in your home, but it really isn’t so bad if you’re still there the whole time. If you can take any other precaution, it could save you a lot of work. And if you’re going to stay close to your home, it’s best just to tell people where you’re going. I always go to my girlfriend’s place.