What Is A Bad Day?

People who keep track can often see patterns emerge when we are not reflecting on what’s really going on. This can be really helpful. The following video has a little something for everyone, from those who are already motivated and those who are stuck in a rut.

So what do you think? Have you ever been in the middle of a rough patch and not been able to focus or have lost energy? Are you just not feeling good? What are you struggling to do to improve your life? How does it feel to not be like your friend who isn’t doing well? What helps? When you think positively, it’s easier to see the positive things in your life. When you see what is working and what isn’t in your life and you keep looking for positive options, the results will come.

I’m going to keep this short today because I had a lot of personal stuff to get off my chest before I got this email from my Mom about my life, how I got here, and what she wishes she could have done differently in her and my life.

We were recently together to watch the Superbowl with my parents in their own little town in Florida. I felt my best friend, a very close relative and friend, and very important person in my life, was going to be there. After the game, he came over to my parents’ apartment where we had a huge party, got completely drunk, and started throwing out and getting down and dirty with whoever he could. By the time we got in bed that night, a couple of hours later, he had made out with several women in the bathroom on the way to bed. It’s the same thing my dad said he witnessed a couple of times with his best friends… He was so upset about the whole thing. And there was no sign of remorse, just shame and self loathing. And my dad still knows about it. I’ve heard from a few people that the same thing happens with a lot of people, that they do things they know they should not do and they are really embarrassed by the whole thing. There is an old saying that goes: “An apology is a piece of toilet paper in the cupboard,” as if they just throw it there and then get up and walk out… That is the kind of person, the type of mentality, that’s been around in my family for a while. And the only reason it’s still around is because of a little girl… She didn’t know how to deal with getting bullied or getting hit, so her mom would give her a piece of toilet paper to write “Sorry” in the corner of her notebook. If something made her feel bad, she would tear it up. She would tear up those little pieces of paper and put them away in the cupboard. It is like a bad habit or something she was born into. I don’t know what to say to make this better… Just because some guys have done bad things doesn’t mean all guys are like that. I know that many, many people have gotten to that point and have made great changes in their life and have given my kids the best example of a healthy family. But for my dad and my cousin to have made such negative, destructive choices in their lives and continue to feel shame and self loathing? I am just so upset and ashamed of them! We had a great time at the Superbowl party, drinking and watching the game. And then this happened. They are both great guys, great relatives and friends. But it’s time for them to face who they really are. And I’m hoping that I can help them with that, because this is something in the house that they need to get out of. But as I said, this is something that they are afraid to talk about. I hope that, just like my dad says, if we can let it be known that someone can just do things they shouldn’t do, we wouldn’t have any more of these situations.