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What Is The Best Way To Get My Kids To Wake Up On Time When They’re In Bed?

In this week’s installment of On Being, we’re going to look at a number of strategies that have helped me get a number of my kids up on time and to bed on time. I’ll even admit that when it comes down to it, it’s all about how you approach the situation and how you approach your child.

In this week’s installment of On Being, I’ve been thinking a lot about one of the most valuable skills parents have, and that is the ability to get their kids up for school in the first place. A lot of our time these days is spent trying to get our kids to do what we want them to do. And when the going gets tough – when it’s not easy – we often lose patience and give up. And that’s a big mistake.

So let’s start with a different method. Rather than trying to get our kids to behave, this week we’re going to look at a method we used to get our kids to behave when we really wanted them to, before they really wanted to.

This method started several years ago with some very, very good (and no, you weren’t on the receiving end of it – sorry) kids (we’re talking, of course, about the kind that aren’t afraid of change – and it’s about time they were!).

I’m going to make this easy for you. You don’t need to have any sort of background or experience with these kinds of kids to apply it. Some of us have had this kind of kid growing up.

The method I’m going to discuss this week is a very simple method that we do when we really need to get our kids to do as we want, when they’re in a situation that makes them feel uncomfortable, or when they’re out of their element. A lot of it is done through simple reminders, but you’ll notice that there are a few key things happening as well. (Note: I’ve highlighted the parts that I consider a MUST, as I consider this the foundation of the method.)

In the next installment, we’re going to get into more detail about the actual method I have been using in my own family for years, a method we call The “Be a Giver” Method. It’s very similar to what I described in this first installment, but if you don’t know what it is, I strongly encourage you to go back and read those two articles here and here .

Okay, let’s get started.

If we’re really looking for a way to get our kids up to speed, this is definitely what we’re looking for. The important thing is to try to be consistent (as in all of the methods listed in this article), and that’s going to take practice and repetition.

So what does it look like when we tell our kids that they have to go to bed when they’re supposed to?

Just a little something simple.

This is what we tell our kids every night:

“If you want to be good, you will go to bed when you are supposed to.”

Just one of the basics, right?

It’s not pretty, and it’s not easy. But it’s very effective. And you can get it to work right away, just like they can, just like you can, even though you’re probably not a good parent right now, and you probably don’t think of yourself that way.

This is the same method that we use when we’re trying to get our kids involved in something or feel good about something. If we’re trying to get them to do something with them, we tell them one of two things: that we’re trying to do something, or that we’re doing something that we’re trying to get them to do.