What Is The Best Way To Train?

Train well. There is no substitute for hard work. It’s a hard science and the stakes are too high for a flawed system to produce the best results. Train the right ways.

When my son broke his leg while playing with some plastic blocks, I sat at his bedside in tears and in shock. I was so devastated, I was unable to function for months and couldn’t think about my work. I felt so helpless with my poor choices that I couldn’t move forward with my life without the support of my husband. It is a miracle that any of us get through the day. I had so much work to do to make my life go right on the outside. I missed it more than I had ever missed a birthday. I thought I would never get through college. I felt so bad for my parents — I’m all I got. I couldn’t believe I had failed… and failed so horribly. The pain was so high I can’t properly imagine it. I’ve never felt better. I feel no shame, I am happy I was able to help my son and my husband, and feel proud of my son. I am so glad I decided to listen to what my body was telling me and accept that a break is not the time to rest, and he may have to be amputated, and that I have to move forward with no regrets. Because of this wonderful family that supported me and gave me support and love, I was able to take that first step to move forward.

What should I focus on now?

Do a lot of low resistance training for your back, core, and legs. You don’t have to do something crazy, but you do need to focus. Work your way up to a very high level.

Do your best to make sure it’s a family-friendly workout; do nothing to put your kids, your mom, or your partners at risk. If there are some things I can do as a parent, let me know and I will update this post.

The other side of the coin to exercise: eat well. Yes, we have to eat right, but don’t let exercise stop you from getting adequate, quality nutrition. It’s no fun working out, being underweight, and feeling like shit at the end of the day. I don’t know of a lot of exercise programs that put nutrition on the same pedestal as exercise or require as much work or discipline as a diet. I hope this inspires you to take your workout seriously. Be aware; I was not going to quit before the end of this process, and I know this can feel like a failure — and it can be — but remember: you can get much farther than you think with hard work.

My goal for next month: get healthier and stronger without getting injured. I really need to get back to full strength and see how I feel. If I see some improvement, I’ll take more time off and start working faster and lifting more on my lifts this coming week. That could be the start of another big year — I want nothing but more!

Thank you to those of you who took the time to read this. I’m thrilled that this has hit a nerve with some people. I feel very lucky to have had this opportunity and to have shared my story with my community. I hope to continue to write and share as I keep learning and growing with my journey. I’m going to miss the comments. I like to write what I feel that day and not what I’m going to write the next day. You guys always make me feel loved and welcome.