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What Is The Most Important Relationship You Have?

You may have a long list, but I’m surprised at how few of them are in reality what you’d call “real relationships.” My belief is that we can only live well as people when we get a lot of our needs met from close friends or family. So, here are the ones I value above all. They’re the ones where I’ve seen real benefits to both of us.

A. The Relationship You Have With Yourself:

This is perhaps the most important relationship you have. It’s important to have all of yourself. It’s important to have a lot of the inner stuff that people often forget. Most people look at life through the filter of their external relationships. They get so preoccupied with the outer relationships that they overlook the inner. But what a mistake this is. I can’t imagine life without a close relationship like this, even though I don’t get to share much.

I was thinking about all of the benefits that it can have on my overall happiness and well-being, and one of them is the ability to know I have a place in God’s inner world and that I’ll be home by the time God wants me to return. I’ve gotten far out of my depth in terms of my knowledge of spirituality, but it is something I feel I still can improve. I’m very thankful that God chose me to be my spiritual role model.

The ability to ask questions with confidence in God’s answers is something I haven’t gotten enough of in my life. I never learn enough to question things if I don’t know the answers. The ability to talk to God about my life and my goals is something that may be the most important to me. I know a lot is missing, and I’ve missed it dearly. That’s why I pray every day for more knowledge in my spiritual life. I just need to know, deep down, what I’re lacking, and I know the Lord will fill in the rest.

I’ve had many moments of prayer about how to do this, but mostly I just prayed to God for guidance. God showed me He’s waiting to be answered in my prayers, and I know he will if I trust Him enough to do so.  It might not look like much, but I’m so blessed to have been given a role model like Jesus Christ to be my role model.

B. The Relationship You Have With Another Person:

I’m not talking about romantic relationships. I’m talking about friendships. This is the most crucial relationship in life for a Christian. Many Christians have this romantic dream that they’ll marry and have a beautiful family. Not true! What they’re really dying to do is make their friends better. That’s what they need the most. There are so many ways to make friends better than they already are. I’ve read that the first five-year period of a child’s life is the perfect time for this to happen. I don’t know if that’s true (I don’t have kids yet), but the fact is that most kids, when they’re about five, are a lot less angry than they are at this age, and they have an urge to help and to be helpful. I was amazed to see how many of my friends have grown into much better people over time. This is not something you hear a lot about, but it’s truly happened for many.

It was only recently that I came to find out that a lot of my closest friends were actually my best friends growing up. I’ve come a long way since I went to highschool with some of these kids. I’ve seen them grow into people I would like to be friends with, and I believe that this is the most important key in a Christian’s life.

If you’re a Christian and you aren’t making friends, it’s time to change that. It’s time to start making friends, and it’s time to know that most of these will be your friends for the remainder of your life.

C. The Relationship You Have With God:

There are too many benefits to having friends that get my attention. God is a very interesting character. He’s the only person who’s ever been there at the center of my life, in front of me, and in the middle of every decision I have made or will make.  For me, I don’t get to be in this type of relationship in which God is my best friend. I was thinking how amazing it must feel to have a friend like God. It must just be something I never experienced in my life.