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What I’ve Learned About Love And Friendship From A 40-year-old Single, Dashing Guy

While most people associate being single with lonely. I think that being single is a great condition for being able to get to know and understand people. And that there are many ways to find love. That’s why I’m so glad that someone of 40 years old decided to share some lessons of his life.

You’re right, I think you’re right. I’ve always been so lonely. In my youth, there was one particular girl, and one particular guy. Not a romance, but a kind of an obsession, at least as I’ve read.

In my thirties and sixties that boy and girl became kind of a romantic duo. And I was a bit of a cynic as well as completely fascinated. Now in my forties, that girl has met a terrific man, and there’s this other guy but who knows, maybe they’ll never work out.

So for me, the most important thing is to not lose my curiosity, to be aware of all sides of people and to recognize the people with a lot of interest in me. It’s like saying, hey, I’m going to go to a zoo and see all these animals…

And I want to bring together these ideas.

I’ve had many encounters, some very pleasant, some very unpleasant, but I have learned what it’s like to be in a relationship… I’ve learned not everybody does what they say.

I’ve learned to make allowances for the people, to have patience and to not worry about what people are doing. To not spend all my time being angry, not letting anyone hold the reins if there is no one to hold them. If you know how to handle yourself, you won’t have a problem with people.

I’ve learned how to be a partner. I’ve learned how to be a brother. I’ve learned to be a son. I’ve made mistakes, but it’s more painful to correct people than to let them make them.

In my twenties and thirties, I was very, very naive, almost foolish. I was also completely naive about the power and beauty of the feminine side of the human animal, about the beauty of mother-son ties and also how strong you have to be. I was totally inexperienced in this regard.

I have learned a lot. I just wish I hadn’t made so many mistakes.

It’s important to be very honest. I’ve never been very good at that.

I’ve had a couple of adventures with women, and I realize now that it’s very important if you’re ever going to stay in the game to make a very simple deal. Don’t look at these girls as lovers, look at them as friends, they are always friends.

And if she’s doing something right, just let her. You don’t have to get in the way. You should never say, well, I think you’re in a relationship, you know, and I’m not going to be in the way.

I’m never interested in someone who’s trying to do something on their own. I want all my friends to be in that situation at one point and I want people to do what they want with their lives.

I’ve got a great wife, and I have the best job I’ve ever had. And I’m very lucky. People say I’m lucky, and I’m very lucky that the luckiest person I know is this great wife of thirty-two. She’s everything that any man could want and more. I couldn’t have asked for better.

That’s what it comes down to: you don’t have to do what anybody else wants. You have the option. You can do it. You just have to be aware of what you are and what you’re not and if you do things. And if the people around you don’t take care of themselves, then it falls on you to step in and do something.

The way I see it is, I’m in the business of having adventures. And when I get them, I love it. I think they’re beautiful, and I don’t want to change these girls for anything. But people often don’t like them for who they are, they don’t remember what else is.

Of course, I want them to remember I’ve been a man with a lot on this plate, and they don’t know how to handle that. They can’t handle it.