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What To Do When Your Life Is Going Wrong

There are times when everything we have is falling apart and we cannot even know we’re struggling. Then, when we realize what we truly need to change, we have to find a way to get to a healthy new place. That doesn’t mean being discouraged because things aren’t working on their own. A healthy mind can learn to change for the better through trial and error. Let’s do our best to be happy as we go through the things that have always been difficult for us but are now becoming more bearable.

There are times when everything we have is falling apart and we cannot even know we’re struggling. Then, when we realize what we truly need to change, we have to find a way to get to a healthy new place. That doesn’t mean being discouraged because things aren’t working on their own. A healthy mind can learn to change for the better through trial and error. Let’s do our best to be happy as we go through the things that have always been difficult for me, but are now becoming more bearable. Then, sometimes we have to face the fact that something is really not working with the person we care about; they’re not happy in their lives and their needs are being left off the table. This is where healing begins.

Here are a few things to think about if you are feeling depressed:

What do we think are the reasons?

Are they truly true?

Have they been addressed or fixed?

How can we change this?

If an answer to any of these questions is no, you need to have a new reason to believe in. You need to give it another chance, even if it may be uncomfortable. This doesn’t mean you don’t accept an answer or the other reason. Instead it means that you’ll continue to look in the mirror a second time and try to see what’s wrong, until you do. Once a new reason comes into the picture, you can then start working on your problems like you would on a new car. You see how well you’re fixing it. It is a simple idea but it will change everything.

Let’s take someone with a broken home to see if they can come up with a new plan. We’ve all had someone at one time or another, in a family situation, who did not take advantage of their time with our family. It was painful to see them get frustrated, angry, unhappy, and even angry at us. When you were young, they always managed to leave our lives, but it never seemed like they really were leaving. They never seemed to have any real goals. What was they afraid of? Nothing, I’ll remember how unhappy I was when I had my own home. I always thought being a housewife and mother would make life so much easier.

Here’s what they should do:

1) They should get back on track in school. You need to give yourself permission to finish school. If you’re having trouble learning math, this is a great place to start. I often see parents who want to do a year or two out of high school to get on their college, job search path.

2) They should read more. You need to write. You need to learn things you didn’t know anything about before, or learn more about topics you never knew anything about before.

3) They should talk less to their parents (even if you know them better, be an extra dad if necessary). They should see their family as an opportunity to get to know your own family. They really need to understand your family. You want to know what they mean to you.

4) They should have better boundaries (with their body, with their friends, and with their boss). I know it sounds odd, but you need to be careful with what you say. Let’s say they say something that hurts someone else. Maybe it was in jest or something you’re used to them saying. If they say that again, it will start to hurt and they will be embarrassed. It’s hard to forgive even though it’s not real.

Be careful with what you do or say. Be extra careful and watch your language.

If what I’ve just said makes you uncomfortable, don’t worry. It is okay to push the reset button if all else fails. Don’t let that push you past your breaking point. This time can be different from the last because you’re giving another chance to yourself.