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When Will You Stop Telling Others Where You Live?

It’s a shame you can’t just live your life. There’s so much to say — not just good, but amazing things about where you live. Don’t spend your time making people feel bad for living where they live. Instead, be a mentor and show the world what it’s like to live a life you love. It’s okay to have your own thoughts — they’re yours to express. Don’t be afraid to live the life you want to.

There’s a saying – “don’t tell other people how they ‘should’ live their life.” That’s all too true. Just the act of doing it has been seen to cause a great deal of unnecessary suffering. Instead, focus on those moments when you wish someone would live your life. This doesn’t mean you have to tell them, but it does mean you can just look a little closer and find some interesting parallels to your own personal story and how it could connect to theirs. You can take it wherever it will take you, but if you can make a little space (sometimes it’s all about “space”), and just observe that the person they’re describing lived the life they’re living, then we can start to connect a little with that person. There’s a lot of inspiration just watching someone else do what they want and need.

Posted by Alex at 4:53 PM

Great post, Alex. I’ll be sure to read more of your posts. Reply Delete

I think the reason life is so difficult is that there are too many expectations. I think a lot of people want to believe they can “have a perfect life” with everyone around them following a certain pattern. I think too much emphasis is put on doing things “right” and on being good at things like earning a degree or having money. Not only are these things that don’t add meaning or happiness – they are often done in a way that prevents a sense of meaning or joy. Delete

“A lot of emphasis is put on doing things “right” and on being good at things like earning a degree or having money. I think too much emphasis is put on doing things “right” and on being good at things like earning a degree” This is not true! I’m so tired of the people who say they want to find happiness and I would never believe they know anything. And they say they want to be happy because it is what God desires! It may be hard to find happiness but God wants for people to be happy and I’m willing to pay that price just so I have fun and be my best self! I think we should follow your advice because it is good to follow God’s lead. As far as earning a degree: I think we should earn any degree we wish, but we should be the ones to say when we have reached a certain level of education and can earn a higher level of education. We should be able to live on our own after making this decision, not a parent or someone that wants a student to be well off. Delete

Hi Mark, Thank you very much for your thoughtful comment and the very appropriate response. I think your comments are a very sound one: “I think the reason life is so difficult is that there are too many expectations.” To me, these demands for perfect behavior, which I do acknowledge exist, are not good for people. There’s always going to be someone who will not be happy with anything that has to be agreed on. Also, my question to you is, do we want people who do not want to be happy to have jobs or have the means of living? If we are making them happy then it must be okay to not make them happy even if it is not a popular or necessary thing to do… I can already picture the parents whose child has been diagnosed with cancer. The parents say, “We don’t want our child to die!” but they keep treating the treatment as if it’s okay because “our child has a disease”. Of course that child would be happy without them and would have never been diagnosed with a disease, but that’s the situation they are in (and it is their choice to live that way; that is their choice). If there’s no point in treating someone with a disease, then I am willing to recognize a different point: you have a disease. Then I won’t get my hopes up that the person I’m concerned with won’t be disappointed (which would be so tragic, as they should be).