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Why Do We Fight?

When we feel threatened or threatened by, we fight.

It’s difficult to have fun when we feel threatened, especially by an unseen threat — especially a threat that might be life-threatening. But when we fight or we feel threatened, we experience a rush of energy (endorphins). This rush leads to the feeling of having had our “get-off-my-lawn” moment and feeling exhilarated, and for a moment, we can forget what the goal is, and we can begin to feel like the world is on our shoulders, and that it’s us against everything in the universe.

The adrenaline rush makes us feel strong and powerful. We feel invincible in the face of an opponent — the enemy. We can feel in control of our own lives, of our futures and of our world. This helps us feel strong and powerful at school, at work, at playing sports, in relationships, and in life in general. But, most of all, fighting is our way of feeling strong and powerful.

When we feel threatened by an enemy we are not going to do anything but fight and attack. This leads to not being able to be happy, having a “get-off-my-lawn” moment, and feeling unfulfilled. This is not the way to happiness.

So, we have to understand that, if we want to feel good about our feelings and to enjoy our physical and mental health, we need to take a long, hard look at how we are going to feel. We have to learn to look back at the feelings and to understand the triggers that make them go off in our heads. We have to do something about them.

So, take a moment to think how you’re feeling when you are not in the moment of truth. You can do this by noticing what is going on with your body right now, and whether you’re getting full, energized, or energized and full but in a bad mood, and whether a “fight” has been triggered.

If you start to feel energized, full, energized and full but not in the mood for fighting, but the adrenaline rush is still getting you fired up: It is time to look at those feelings as triggers . We can learn how triggers work, and how to avoid them. When triggered, you are more likely to react in a fighting way to perceived threats. You are more likely to react in a fighting way to emotional or physical pain. If you can do something to prevent the trigger from ever happening again, you have avoided the fight by doing something. If you avoid a potential trigger by staying calm, understanding the trigger, and thinking “if he triggers me again, I’ll just do my best to not react”, you will be better equipped to experience “getting off my lawn”, as you said.

The best way to avoid a trigger is to think about it beforehand, and to do something to keep the adrenaline rush from happening after the trigger. I call it “avoidance training”. Let’s take a couple of examples:

When I notice that my heart rate (as a measure of oxygen consumption) is much higher than normal and I’m getting tired, I take a few steps outside where I can breathe better. I’m then back inside and try to do some more easy activities which will keep my body from fighting.

The same thing with an adrenaline burst in a stressful situation. When I find myself feeling angry or sad, I try to cool down and I look for calming activities that will keep me calm and cool.

When I’m feeling excited about a fight I want to do a lot of physical activities and I’m very sensitive to changes in my body. I try to take time to stay comfortable and I look for calming activities that will keep me calm and comfortable.