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Why Do We Have To Make Life Happen? Why Can’t We Just Be Happy?

If we make our happiness our goal, we’ll find it difficult finding true happiness. That’s because true happiness is more than a feeling. It’s an action. Happiness involves effort; you can’t make yourself happy by sitting around and doing nothing.

Happiness is the state of being content on account of one’s environment, one’s work, and the way things are set up. There are things in life which you can choose to work on, such as being healthy, exercising, and having a good life. And there are things in life which you can choose not to work on, such as loneliness, pain, and suffering.

Some people have a hard time making meaning in life. They believe they’re working on the wrong things and not being successful at them. But happiness is a skill, and learning to make happiness a part of our lives is a process. First we have to be aware as to the choices we make in life today and the outcomes of those choices. Then, we have to change some of our choices if they aren’t yielding the desired results. Then, we do that work and learn how to experience happiness as a consequence.

In the section below, I write more specifically about what kind of choices bring me happiness (that is, what the Buddhist concept of āsavakkhanā is).

This is a fairly simple concept:

When I focus on the happiness of my life, everything else in life becomes a benefit of that happiness, and not a hindrance. The happiness that leads to the good life is in my reach, no matter where I’m going. I just have to know where to look.

When I am focused entirely on happiness, I can’t tell when I’m being happy or happy. That’s because I am focused on things that will bring me happiness, not on things that simply make me happy. That’s what allows me to be content in my life and at the same time avoid a vicious cycle of unhappiness and a cycle of unproductivity (see the section on Unhappiness in the section on Happiness ). In fact, when my happiness is concentrated in one place, I can go back to work on my most important problem without having to worry about getting my next project done: my happiness. If I keep being distracted with some other task when I should be thinking about my happiness, I’ll eventually lose focus on my happiness and end up getting stuck. I’m not worried whether being distracted will produce a result and whether it is right or not because I know what the result will be. Once I get the goal achieved, there’s no question what will happen to the result. If happiness leads to my goal, I get it.

What Are Some Basic Rules?

We will assume that you are doing something productive in your life that gets your mind into a state of happiness. You will also assume that there are goals and consequences.

Rule 1: Focus on Happiness

A common reason for unhappiness is to not focus at all on happiness. Most of us in the Western world do not focus on happiness very much. If you don’t know that you have a problem with focus, you may as well call it a problem with memory or a problem with motivation. Our modern culture is so preoccupied with making our lives perfect that we have lost sight of focusing on what really matters: our own happiness .

We are used to being told by everyone else that whatever we choose is most important, but our own happiness will always be the most important thing to us. Even our happiness will be more important than money or fame or power.

In Buddhism, we are taught that the path that leads to nirvāṇa leads to a state of āsavakkhanā.