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Why Is It So Hard To Change Your Mind?

What we think changes our minds.

There’s no one answer for why we think the way we do, but a big part of this answer is that we’re not always sure how we really think. We often tend to try to understand who or what we think we are by analyzing our experiences. But, instead of focusing on our own subjective experiences, it could be useful to focus on how our minds actually function and how much influence you can have over your own thoughts and feelings.

If you take a look at a list of the most frequently asked questions about thought, you’ll find that the answers often come from a variety of different places: our own interpretations. Our first impression may come from our own experience with the question being asked. This is because we start with what we know, which may be something relatively limited like our own experience or a book or an answer to a challenge, and then try to add in what we already know. We then make assumptions to help us understand, but don’t think much about our assumptions once they are formed. This is one reason why it’s important to find other people who also have similar experiences to get an idea of what they might have learned from them. When our first impressions and our assumptions are wrong, it is possible to make changes to them to learn about the right way to be and/or respond through an open-ended process. In most cases we change our first impressions, not the assumptions we make. However, we are often only thinking through our assumption based on our initial experience. We might try to think through it, but not look at any other points of view. When you put a lot of effort into trying to understand your own mind, you will probably learn a lot about your thinking process. Then, by trying to change your assumptions you can learn about what really drives you. You may even find ideas that were previously not on the radar to help you improve your thinking. Learning How You Think

Learning your understanding helps you figure out how to do it more effectively. If you are in a place where it makes sense to think without using your assumptions, you can make it easier to do what you already know you can do.

Some useful points of view: What is really going on (i.e., how much truth is there to the assumptions that drove your interpretation)?

What are your needs and needs you don’t experience when you have something more important than something that has no value to you (i.e., you’re focusing on things that don’t matter)?

What can you find the value in if not the truth?

What can you be less afraid of or more willing to experiment with (e.g., what is something that really matters?).

What do you value more (e.g., what would you change or stop doing)?

How you can learn to give your full attention to the present and not worry about other things (i.e., your fear of letting go of things you have invested in). This will be an important thing to practice, but one that we often overlook. The more we put our attention into the present, the more we get more done without losing focus.

Sometimes we try to look for solutions, but often we lose perspective and just keep focusing on our current fears or negative beliefs/expectations. Learning how to use this skill will help you identify other areas of focus and help you do the things you already know you can do. If you are an expert in figuring out what you need to do to change your assumptions about your beliefs or desires, you may also find it more difficult to let go.