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Why We Are Not Being Self-disciplined In Our Lives

We’ve taken the word self-discipline as an all-or-nothing attitude and used it to dictate the behavior of others. We’ve failed to recognize that discipline consists of balance, balance between two kinds of behaviors, and balance is key to all of life and in this day and age, it’s even more crucial to our self-actualization.

The reason you are not the same person you were one year ago? It’s because we’ve been chasing one level of self-control and we lost sight of which behaviors are the most important to our wellness and success. Stop chasing the cookie-cutter self-discipline system; let the other behaviors do their thing and enjoy a new, more balanced you.

A few more things that are not self-discipline:

A lack of effort in things we should already be trying to do. In the above example, the employee has an abundance of energy and they are doing nothing. I want you to understand that while an abundance of energy is a positive and powerful thing to have, it is not the same as self-discipline. So the employee is not using self-discipline because they are “not making the effort”. They are doing nothing because they are not trying. To be good at something, I have to put in effort and practice it. I need to have a goal and practice taking steps towards it.  

A lack of self-honesty

Often when we don’t self-discipline on a daily basis, we are hiding something. In this example, the employee is trying to cover up the fact that they have not made the effort to find a new job or they are trying to delay or delay being proactive instead of being proactive. So we see with this behavior that the employee doesn’t actually want to change and is trying to “protect” the reputation of the company. Not only that, but they are also hiding the fact that they still don’t have a job and will likely find themselves working without a salary for several years. These are behaviors not of self-discipline, but of lying.

What the employee needs is a plan to make things right . But first, they should have to admit it. And if they don’t have a job or have a position filled, they should be ready to find an appropriate new position. The best place to start is in the most appropriate position.

A lack of honesty about their self-esteem

Here’s another example of this. On the phone, the employee is talking about how important it is for people to be themselves. In this case, they are saying it and how it is important to be genuine about who they are. I see in this person that they are afraid of their own weaknesses and that they need to fix their issues in order to be loved. While they are making this statement, I see them holding back and they are holding on to their own sense of self-worth and they are hiding their weaknesses, while they are holding on to their weaknesses. But if what they really want is to be loved and accepted, then they need to be transparent. So I say to myself, “Now, let’s look at the picture of who this person is and who you want to be, and figure out if there is anything that can be worked through here.” And the employee says they need to be more honest and more authentic with who they are because of their anxiety about being “too authentic”. But if they can be honest, then they can also embrace their own authentic nature and not hide who they are, because if they embrace their authentic nature, they’ll be loved and accepted and that’s all that really matters. Now, the employee is having to find a way to be authentic about it, so they can embrace who they are. And if they can embrace who they are, then they can be seen for who they truly are and that is important.