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Why We Do Things We Don’t Like

Some things we enjoy and others we don’t. But what distinguishes when we enjoy one over the other and why? To answer these questions we need to look at some psychological constructs. And, some of the answers are revealed in science. [1] Understanding this can help you better appreciate what you want to do and what people are telling you you can and shouldn’t do.

Some things we enjoy and others we don’t. But what distinguishes when we enjoy one over the other and why? To answer these questions we need to look at some psychological constructs. And, some of the answers are revealed in science. Knowing who you are and what you are capable of will help you determine what to do. [2] How well you learn will determine your likelihood of success and the success you have. [3] This knowledge can help you find what you don’t like about the things your parents and society will tell you you do. [4] And you have the best of both worlds because both are part of who you are because you will be more successful if you learn to embrace both.

How much would you like to be able to say, ” I didn’t enjoy playing football but I still played it”? Or, “I did enjoy working out but I can’t do it.” This statement is a little bit different then the ones in the earlier quotes. We can change the sentence to say, “Even though I didn’t enjoy the sport, I still did it.”

This is a problem that arises for most things, whether they be sports or a lot of other things. It’s called not liking what you do for a reason.

” I didn’t enjoy playing football but I still played it.”

This statement makes it sound like he had a good reason. But, that’s not the case. He enjoyed playing football and he can still do it.  For example, he may have been given a choice of a team with a poor attitude. But he still chose the team that he felt was the most fun to play for.

” I didn’t enjoy working out but I can’t do it.”

Now you may think this sentence is completely false because he can still do it. But, remember that the reason he didn’t enjoy it is because he couldn’t do it. And, most probably he did like working out. 

“Even though I didn’t enjoy the sport, I still did it.”

This sentence is also partially untrue because the reason he didn’t enjoy the sport is because he could. And even though he may have found enjoyment in the sport, that doesn’t really make the sport more enjoyable. It may not look as “hard core” but it doesn’t really make the work easier either.

“I enjoyed playing football but I can’t do it.”

You can see that most people say “Even though I didn’t enjoy the sport, I still played it”. What people fail to realize is that this does not have anything to do with it not being enjoyable or enjoyable in the first place. There is nothing wrong with that, but it does not make the sport “worthwhile” from that particular standpoint. 

“I enjoyed working out but I can’t do it.”

Again, you may think that he didn’t enjoy the sport in the first place. But, it doesn’t matter. He can still do it, and it doesn’t matter whether it was enjoyable or not or even when it was enjoyable or not.

“I enjoyed playing football but I can’t do it.”

For more information on the psychology of why people say, “I didn’t enjoy playing football,” see this page:

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“Even though I didn’t enjoy the sport, I still did it.”

If all you’re saying is, “I can still do it,” the reason might just be that the person was given a choice, or an option, and not given an obligation .  That a guy is forced to either “do it” or “not do it.” But, in his own mind, all he knows is that there is a choice, and he chooses “not do it.” This is also why he might just want to do something else.