Why We Fear Fear

Our brains are wired to fear something, any thing even, and our nervous systems, the same, also fight the things that we fear. We have the same fight-or-flight response as every animal, but our reaction is amplified and magnified by culture. Fear is actually part of everyday life, something that you feel when you feel anxious and when you fear or hate people, places, things, and activities.

When we’re born, we’re surrounded by many things to fear. It’s normal if we don’t like certain people or do or say things to them. It’s also normal if we don’t like certain things or do or say things in certain situations. Every human being experiences fear from infancy to old ages. As I look back through years of my life, I was afraid of the world more than I was of death. The reason being I was afraid of change, and I was afraid of not having a place. I was afraid I wouldn’t know who I really was, what I really believed. But fear isn’t real and I had the ability to control my brain from a much earlier age than most people.

Fear is the most powerful natural emotion we humans feel. The reason is, we have this natural impulse to fight or flight, and we have the ability to override it. The brain is a very intelligent creature, able to use the most powerful tool it has at its disposal to fight or flee. 

We will fight or flee when we feel threatened; we will do so even in situations where there is no real threat. We are not born with the ability to control our fear. We must learn how to control it, and that is achieved on multiple levels throughout childhood.

The first is through your brain’s natural response to fear. By understanding it and unleashing the fight-or-flight response, you can stop fear from affecting you. This is very simple to do. By being aware of it, understand that it exists and is a natural part of us.

But fear isn’t the only thing we fear. We fear things that are out of our control. For example, fear of being hated. We fear the negative things that people do and say to us. Fear of failing. We’re more afraid of failure than we are of actually making a mistake or failing. In fact, the greater our fear of failure, the lower our performance goals are. Fear of death isn’t a fear per se, but rather a fear of dying. If you were to ask 100 people to guess which is greater, you’re probably going to get 100 different answers. But fear of death is actually greater to us than it is to other people. It’s more powerful and more negative, so when we think about the reason why is something that we have to examine.

Death has the power in its presence to make us feel pain and fear at the same time, two things that are very difficult to reconcile. At first, we may try to ignore that aspect. But by doing so we miss out on a lot of the rewards of life, like new experiences, friendships, relationships, experiences, and things. When we fear something or people, we’re afraid of the loss.

The reason being, we don’t know whether we will lose someone or something that we love, or the experience of making a big decision. There are no guarantees and no matter what happens, your loved ones probably won’t tell you the best things that they experienced in life. What’s the point of living life if everything is to be taken away from you, and at this point we can only imagine what that would feel like. And that’s what our fear of death is designed to do.

We are afraid of death because our brains are programmed from the moment we’re born to not believe that we are completely dependent on things like food, water and shelter. When we see them being stripped away from us, we are scared that we may not have what’s needed to survive. The fear of losing that may seem a bit scary, but the reality is that it just means we have to learn how to survive on our own. If our parents or caregivers die, then we have to figure out how to take care of ourselves. If we have to die, then we have to learn how to live.