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Why We Fight Over Bad Habits And How To Break Them

Our actions can affect the habits we develop in our daily lives, creating or unleashing emotional tension and anger. But once you realize how, there is hope for change. By breaking bad habits, you empower yourself to better take care of yourself and others. As one man explained, “When you let go of the fight, the problem clears up.”

For some, it makes sense that we should try to change bad habits, but for many others, it is a more frustrating endeavor. We hear about the bad habits which are the source of our anger, shame and anger. Unfortunately, in a world of constant change, these bad habits are so entrenched, they can take years to break completely in any significant way. For those who have been through this, who are trying to stop the negativity from spiraling out of control, it is often discouraging to sit in front of a television and hear someone else’s story about how they are “fixing” these terrible habits through discipline. As another person said, “I have to be in an environment where I can let go of this anger. This isn’t me.”

This frustration is what motivates me. Many people, if given the chance, could do such a feat; just look at most of the world’s great champions. It’s easy to sit there and complain about them; however, what you do at those times is an important part of what makes someone great. What is needed is for those who are feeling frustrated with a bad habit to look around at what others are doing, and then look at a problem with a different lens. Here are a few ways for you to take the frustration out of this question:

1. Look at Your Emotional State

When we are down and we don’t know why, sometimes the only solution we can find is to look at ourselves in the mirror. Sometimes anger will come out, but if you look deeply into your head and see the anger in other people’s voices, and in your own, they might turn off the anger, and they will see that anger for what it is; a sign to be treated with care. As another person said, “In order to truly stop the anger you’ve got to look at the anger in someone else’s eyes.” There is something beautiful about that.

2. Look At Your Body

Sometimes we have the best ideas when we see how angry others’ reactions are. We need to take a look at our body. A body’s “fight or flight” reaction makes no sense to many of us. It makes sense to them but not to us. But we have a choice. If we feel like we need to run from danger, we can run but if we feel the need to be a part of and protect a family, community, etc, we can be. If we take this one step back, we can see it is a choice to be active in our life, or passive. We have the choice to be active, or passive.

3. Look at Others

We are always the center of our world’s attention, so sometimes we become so focused on ourselves, we forget our children, our spouses, our parents, etc. We let our own feelings get the best of us. When someone looks out of the corner of their eye and sees someone else being so angry, instead of just reacting internally, they can actually step forward and give them the respect they deserve. What a wonderful example to follow.

4. Look at God

How can you relate to God? Does He see and care about what you are doing in your life? When something is hurting you, how do you know you are hurting Him? As another man said, “If you need to be angry, don’t. It will only add to your problem.” The Bible tells us that God does look deep inside us, and He cares about you deeply, but He also has His ways of looking. What He needs of us is to look for the best in ourselves, and then trust Him to bring the strength we need to accomplish great things in our lives.