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Why We Have To Talk About Being Sick

As a society, we love to give support to someone else when they’re ill or experiencing a stressful situation. It makes them feel supported and more in control of themselves.

Even our bodies tell us it’s time to call it quits. As we age, the bodies of our bodies tell us it is time to call it quits when we have aches, pains and other body symptoms. I find this to be a very odd and unsettling phenomenon, and I am trying to figure out what’s going on. The more I research it, the more strange and unsettling the phenomenon becomes.

I have a theory that the “you should call it quits” thing is an unconscious human instinct that is being passed down from generation to generation, and we as humans have a short memory and are quick to react to a specific event, or someone who is in a crisis, and instantly start to say, “you should call it quits, we should all be in a room together and cry, and everything will be good”. It would seem that by doing this, we are telling each other something that we didn’t really know. We are creating an echo chamber.

The fact that most people don’t even call it quits or know to listen to their bodies when they have aches or pains is a little disturbing. It’s not like we can’t call or check up on our friends when we see anything amiss. As we grow older, we can take more time to listen to people who have been there before, like family, doctors and nurses. But there can be a difference between listening and understanding; many people don’t have an understanding of their bodies and how it’s affecting them (which is why it’s important to listen when we have aches or pains, or just feel uncomfortable around someone who’s sick).

Another interesting thing I have noticed is how different cultures deal with this issue. I find that many traditional cultures have more time for sickness. In many African cultures, you are expected to take care of family members and stay home from work. If you can’t take care of the sick, you are considered to be in trouble and may not return to the village or family. My grandmother used to go to the doctor in the morning and get ready for work, and come home to help make me food with a bowl she filled with water for me. She would always wake me up when my aches were bothering me, and tell me to take a rest when I was feeling a little sick. If I kept complaining to her that I didn’t like the food she gave me, she would tell me that I still had a life to live and I wanted to live it to the fullest, whatever it took.

In a traditional Japanese culture, you are expected to be a productive member of society when you are sick, even though many people in the traditional Japanese culture are in great need of care, because you are also expected to stay healthy. In the traditional Japanese culture, people don’t call it quits, because you are expected to do whatever it takes to get back into school in order to make yourself available for more work to do, and then to come back home when your job is finished. For example, during the spring semester for Japanese high schools, I worked for three other schools during those three months. During those three months, I was expected to leave school early during weekdays and come back home to work three days a week. I didn’t need any of the sick days at all. I was so tired of always having to go back to school when I felt sick that I didn’t mind the time spent in school as long as I came home every day.