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Why We Ignore The Signs When Something Is Wrong

Many people make a judgment that someone or something is “wrong” if they have a “bad” day and don’t want to listen.

However, we are all capable of good or bad days, bad days, good days, or nothing like in between. If you don’t like it when your stomach hurts, you might choose to ignore pain or you might choose to listen to your instincts and take steps to heal. (For more about mindfulness, click here .

Why is there so much negative talk about sex? This is a hard one to explain and I’ll skip over that part of the discussion, but it is something we need to talk about and we can’t talk about it when people look into our eyes.

For those of you who are a little older, I realize that there may have been a time in your life where you may have wanted to be or have sex with someone who had an STD but didn’t. I myself know that there was a time when I desired someone who was HIV positive because I was told many times that I didn’t want to be in a position where I had to take care of a sick person, and that is why I chose to date someone who was HIV positive – even if I was in the middle of a relationship with someone who was healthy and living a happy, healthy life.

I didn’t even know that I was HIV positive until 2007 when the virus caught up with me. I believe that many of the reasons why people feel the need to talk negatively about sex in public are that there are people (and this includes those who use drugs and alcohol) who make an assumption that sexual activity will lead to negative results. Even though the risk is very low with most people, as we know, sexual activity can also have negative consequences. It is important to understand this risk and the consequences associated with sexual activity.

So what does happen if we do choose to have sex that we know is risky? We have to use common sense.

For those of you in the U.S., a common sense solution would be to use a condom . You don’t need a doctor or a doctor’s prescription for condoms. If you don’t already have one, I would recommend getting one. They are quite inexpensive. You can find very cheap condoms at any drug store. Some pharmacies will sell them to you if you ask – just ask.

For those of you in other countries, you can try to find a local pharmacy. Ask the pharmacist for a condom (you can ask in your language and he could show you if it is okay to buy a condom) or you could just find them on the street or somewhere like the metro station if you can’t ask. You can also ask your doctor for a condom as an alternative. Remember, condoms work by preventing pregnancy. Therefore, unless you can get permission from your doctor, don’t get one if your immune system is compromised.

So if people don’t want to use condoms, that is fine. If a condom breaks or is damaged, then I would recommend washing it out with soap and water or buying a new condom or changing your partner’s. Remember, don’t go down without a fight.

A condom also can prevent STDs. You don’t necessarily have to go with the most expensive condom. Most likely most of them are much cheaper than they look. If you are at risk and are considering using the cheapest ones, then I would suggest that you test them for diseases like HPV.