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Why We Struggle With Stress And Have Difficult Times Getting Through The Day

A few weeks ago, my brother started experiencing some signs of anxiety. As a result, he spent the next few days at his lowest point ever: he had trouble concentrating as he worked, he lost appetite and started drinking, and he had problems with memory. He felt like he was losing his mind, and he was concerned that he might not make it through the week.

This is a story about why my brother felt the way he did, and what he did to overcome his stress.  It’s also about why stress makes it difficult—sometimes impossible—to get through the day.

*A couple weeks ago, I had a really rough day. I was pretty depressed and exhausted, had trouble with sleep, a rash on my neck, was in a lot of pain, and was pretty frustrated. But I did a couple things that gave me a nice boost. One was to go to the gym and start working out hard.  Secondly, I listened to some music that was really uplifting.

*The music I listened to reminded me of some songs that I had heard before. I was really excited and didn’t want to let it go. And then after that song, everything in my life started to feel better.

My brother was having some similar problems.    He was still sad. But he was also worried and upset.    While he was at the gym, he started thinking about some of the issues that come with stress. And he did a few things to try and improve it.

* First, as I mentioned earlier, he went on a trip to California with his friends as a way of getting out of his usual routine. He was still upset with things that had happened over the past year, and this seemed like it would be a way to get away from it. The group came and stayed with his parents, and he tried to get away from it, but it wasn’t easy.

* He also worked on his study habits: he used to study when he was home but hadn’t made it a habit lately. This helped a lot.

* He also worked out at the gym. This worked as well.    For instance, he was running up the stairs, and the weight felt really heavy. I guess because it was his first time doing it, the muscles in his legs were really tight, and he was struggling to walk. But he did it anyway. He really enjoyed it.

* Finally, he did some exercise to help release some of the stress in his body. The exercises he did helped him with breathing and relaxation. He loved the way the exercise felt. He also ate some ice cream. Then after the ice cream was out of his mouth, he started feeling even better.

Well, it sounds like two of my favorite things. I am glad that it helped my brother, and I hope to do it again. But I also have to tell you that I really felt like I was losing my mind. It was really hard for me to focus and to think clearly and to sleep. I was also feeling very tired when I did it. And the pain was a problem, but it was at least manageable (I still have some pain now, but it hasn’t been as bad as it was in a couple of weeks ago). And I did the things a lot of you do if you are stressed out: I ate right, I slept right, I exercised, and I took a walk.   But the way I tried to put this situation into words is very difficult.   I didn’t know what to say.

I think, at some point, you are going to feel good, and it will feel really good. But if it’s a bad feeling, you don’t want a bad feeling. It should make you happy, and it should be enjoyable. It should make you smile, and it should be fun, and it should make you realize that maybe you shouldn’t feel so bad, that you’re not alone, and maybe you can get through this. Maybe there was hope for you, and maybe you can turn things around, whether it’s through learning more about yourself or having someone who cares about you to help you.

I’m not sure what to think of my first response to being sad, to this experience.